need to get out! but don't know how!

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I have brought up my 20 month old on my own since birth, it has only been me who has fed, bathed and got her to bed..
i don't go out, but i would really like to go back to playing football. Unfortunately, training is 6.30-7.30, one night a week, which is smack bang in the middle of bath and bed time...
I am worried about leaving her with a babysitter as i think she would get freaked out if i wasn't putting her to bed and tantrum for ages and get upset.
Should i just do it? or give up football for another season?
I keep reading about lone parents needing their own space but i don't know the best way to get any!
Please help! Feel like i am getting Cabin Fever!

It might be worth giving it a go though, you never know she might be fine, you could try a few trial runs to see how it goes.

Even if you can't quite manage training yet due to bath/bed time tantrums perhaps you could start by leaving her with a baby sitter for short times earlier on to get her used to it and get some time to do whatever else you might want 5 mins peace to do .

thanks for replying...
everyone i have spoken to has said that i am being stupid and to just do it....but i know that she will be upset and it will mess with her routine...no one i know seems to understand that!
but they dont have kids!
thanks, will try doing a taster first!

I was never one for hard and fast routines, but was (and still am) strict about actual bedtimes. Perhap let baby sitter have a more relaxed bedtime routine, miss out the bath perhaps. My two turned out to be fairly flexible and granny always did things totaly different to me anyway when they stayed with her (still does .) Ok you might come back to DD curled up asleep on the settee with the babysitter.

It might mess with her routine but not necesarly SP? upset her. As long as you stick to the same thing I have found kids know; different person different routine.

Front door,

Skribble speaks sense! Give it a go...im 31 weeks pregnant with my first (BF did a runner when we found out i was prgnant) and i intend to do most things myself, but every now and then a small change wouldnt do any harm? And really wouldnt be good if you went mad through ccabin fever Do you have family nearby or someone you could use on a reg basis? so at least she is used to them?

Goodluck xx

Thanks to everyone who answered...
I think you are all right, i hear all the time of single moms going out and having their own time, even if it is only an hour a week! We all need time off, unfortunately time off for me is going to work, which i don't think counts!
I will definitely take your advice and give it a go...feel much more confident about it now! Thanks!