Men who play step daddy but are terrible to their own children.

[Mama12000]

My childs dad acts as though he is the best daddy to his new girlfriends children and he seems to love that she tags him in all her children's photos on facebook constantly and also photos of the 5 of them with the caption 'family' when he just stopped bothering his arse about his own child who is only two and hasn't been seen in a year. No texts/phonecalls or anything. Am I being unreasonable to not care to react in the slightest?. ( apart from the fact I feel it for my child that his dad is a useless deadbeat ). Some people are saying to me they dont know why I'm so calm and they would go mad if just was their childrens dad behaving like that but I honestly believe a child is better of without a parent who is happy to act like they dont exist?.

Yes, same here!
If it's any consolation, my children are in their 20s now and we have a lovely relationship.
When they go through life doing good things and being great people, I just think 'I helped them be this lovely person, on my own' and it makes me proud

I agree with @MissLucyEyelesbarrow . I know someone (close relative of a friend) who's done exactly this. Living it up with new gf and kids, numerous posts gushing about her and 'his boys' , they've changed his life, etc etc Reality is , is that his life is a shit show. The ones who write these kind of posts are the ones trying to prove something. Meanwhile, he slags off the mother of his child rotten but she's the one who does everything for his son and pays for everything.

Just remember that you're well rid OP and your child don't need him .

I think these men just see the children as extensions of their mothers.

The children of their current partner will always be brilliant. Other children will be second best.

It's one of those things we don't like to think about but some people do lose interest in their own children. I even knew someone whose mother lost interest in her after starting a new family but it seems more common with men.

Thank you all for your replies. It's crazy to hear so many stories of similar situation. Seems very common.