happy kiddy true or false?

[belbuck]

What do you think? My friend is 40s male, desperate for kids but partner not interested. My friend (at partner's suggestion) impregnated 40s single female friend of partner. Female friend (now pregnant) maintained pre-conception she only wanted a hands-on daddy. My friend v interested, as vv keen to become dad. Current situation - my friend happily anticipating baby's arrival (does not live with partner due to independence / commitment?? issues...not entirely clear). My friend's partner apparently carrying on as normal and happier in 'aunty' role than 'mum'. Partner's friend now pregnant. I worry v much for my friend and baby in terms of attachment, relationships,identity, security, practical issues, potentially being told to get lost etc etc. ps. my friend never met nor knew of partner's friend before few months ago. Opinions and thoughts gratefully received.

not sure im understanding but do you mean your friend has fathered a child with another friend with the blessing of his partner and you are worried that he is going to get hurt if the other friend changes her mind about having him in the picture ? what has been suggested regarding maintenance and access arrangements ?

You're right. My friend fathered a child with another woman (previously unknown to him) with the blessing of his partner. I am worried that he is going to get hurt if the mother changes her mind about having him in the picture. I know of nothing having been discussed regarding maintenance and access arrangements. He vaguely mentioned that he would have the baby / child at weekends and for some weekdays. What does he need to do, and what position legally does he have, to ensure the best possible outcome for each party in this situation?