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Magicpaint · 01/12/2020 20:48

My ex husband wanted a half hour video call with his DD on Xmas day. He lives the other side of the country but I offered to stay at a relative's near his over the Xmas period so he could see her the same amount of time as me. He agreed to this.
Received a message today he will only see her 10-2 on boxing Day. He has a new home with his new girlfriend and believe it or not that doesn't bother me at all. In fact I brought her a Xmas present from my daughter when she was to visit. The problem is my ex only sees his DD once a month( his choice) and because of this she gets very upset when I collect her from him. I'm concerned that four hours will fly by and she will be absolutely devastated at the short visitation. So I don't know what to do? I personally feel that it would do more harm than good but I'm pretty certain he would make out I would be preventing him from seeing him. I don't know how to reply. Please help

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Magicpaint · 01/12/2020 20:50

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SixtiesChildOfWildBlueSkies · 01/12/2020 21:03

Well I certainly wouldn't be travelling across country on Xmas day just so my ex could 'fit in' a visitation with his DD .
I know you offered to do this, but I'd be tempted to tell him that his revised shortened hours have made you feel that it's not worth such a long trip for you to take at such a time.
Therefore you will be staying at home, but that he is still quite welcome to collect your DD from your home and take her out on the arranged day/time.

He may sulk, accuse you of trying to sabotage his Christmas with his new girlfriend, or whatever. However, he is the one who has changed the arrangements, so he can do the running around.

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