Refuge

[newdaywillcome]

Where do i go if i apply as a refuge of domestic violence?
They give you a room? You live with other women and children?
Have a 20 month old, wondering what I will be putting her through

Generally they give you a room in a house with other women and children. There are normally staff. IME lovely kind staff. The location is normally a closely guarded secret.

Are you in a city?

www.womensaid.org.uk/the-survivors-handbook/what-is-a-refuge-and-how-can-i-stay-in-one/

@MrsTerryPratchett

Generally they give you a room in a house with other women and children. There are normally staff. IME lovely kind staff. The location is normally a closely guarded secret.

Are you in a city?

Thank you for the information and the link. I am in a city...

Are you safe tonight?

Am guessing, if you're considering refuges, it won't be as bad for her as staying in your current situation OP. I mean that kindly.

Have you spoken to a domestic abuse advisor at all?

Please call the freephone number found on the site below:

www.refuge.org.uk/

They can help you and discuss options. STAY SAFE x x

Usually in a shared house. You will have your own room and your children would be in with you.
There is staff there 24/7 to ensure you are safe and supported.

The other women there will be the same as you.... having these exact same thoughts.

If you are in danger, go.

I have been in two. One was a studio room with a kitchen area and bunk beds and toilet, shared bath/shower. The other was completely self contained small flat with separate bedroom and bathroom. If you don’t mind moving location you can request more self contained than communal. Feel free to ask any questions. It’s difficult but worth it, I had a one year old and a three year old xx

Hey! I hope youre okay? I declined a refuge space last week because I was so scared of the unknown and the feeling of my situation not being that bad and that I was taking up room when another woman could need it more. I'm now currently in one...you really do need to put yourself first. Your little one will be SO supported! I'm in a shared one, and it really is okay :) we've got two bedrooms, a little kitchenette (nothing fancy just fridge, microwave & kettle), a small bathroom and then the main kitchen/dining, lounges and playrooms etc are all communal xxx

Thank you everyone for your responses and care. I don't think I was in danger, but whatever little violence was done against me felt very humiliating and I felt really hurt. I had same thoughts though as another woman has posted - didn't want to take up place for someone who may be in worse situation. For now I decided to wait until I can move permanently elsewhere

There is always a woman that needs it more. That doesn't mean you don't need it.

You don't have to answer but 'little violence' seems minimising. I've had a lovely friend minimise like that and she was in serious danger. I hope you aren't.

A "little violence" (ANY violence or its threat, is unacceptable OP) can suddenly become much more serious. And DC will be aware of the terrified atmosphere it creates.