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inthedarkxx · 23/11/2020 21:58

So I've got 6 Kids to my ex. He was having kids at his flat for contact, he has another child with his partner and she's pregnant again, so she will have 4 kids living with her in a couple of months ( 2 will be my exes so he will have 8 kids) He has said he will be giving up his flat and will want to take kids to her house for contact and stay over nights there ( I don't get along with her as she was abusive towards me and used kids in adult things but that's another story) anyway they will have 10 kids and 2 adults staying regularly in a 3 bed house and I don't agree with this long term. I don't want my children sleeping on air beds long term in the living room, it's not fair on my children, as the bedrooms will belong to her children from a previous relationship so I don't think she will be very happy putting mine in her Childrens rooms crammed in. Also she lives an hour away from me and he will want them there during the week but that will mean getting them up mega early to drive an hour to school. He currently works weekends mostly. We've had constant issues with contact
I'm going through court now, filing the forms out but what kind of contact do you recon the judge will award in this situation? I would prefer kids to have residence at mine and him have contact, I Think she's hoping he will go for full custody as she wants me out of the picture ( agains another story) which I'm terrified of but I can't see his partner wanting to take care of 10 kids alone whilst he's at work ( 2 will be toddlers and one a newborn) and she's likely to return to work in a year as well so how would it all work? Any suggestion on what I can put forward ?

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Light11 · 23/11/2020 22:12

This sounds absolutely bonkers !

Sorry, that’s not helpful I would say sit down and draft up what you want to happen and what contact is realistic, list down some compromises(but don’t hand them in straight away). At least you will have something to work with.

I can’t see any one wanting to live with a newborn and sleeping in the floor on air beds, how will they do homework and have a routine? Plus what if anyone has to self isolate with all the covid situation?

Can’t see it working

Santaisironingwrappingpaper · 23/11/2020 22:18

A newborn overnight obviously won't be happening surely?
During our court hearings the judge had to be satisfied each house had a bed and storage space for each dc...
Sounds like a logistical nightmare op..

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