To ask ex for child support

[shuz1980]

Ex hasn't paid child support this month due to van breaking down therefore not being able to work and loss of income. He still has income from other sources so still earning. Just not as much. Would you still ask for child support? Im on reduced hours at work due to Covid so could really do with it this month but feel guilty knowing his earnings are less this month. He doesn't have our children so has no cost for them to add into his budget. He's single and lives alone.

Why on earth should you feel guilty? He has a responsibility to support his child, the money is not a favour. Can you use CMS?

@timetest I'm just that type of person. Always feel guilty for things I shouldn't. We spoke about cms but ex said he'd pay direct which he has been except for this month. Which is where the guilt comes in. Is he struggling this month and thats why he's not paying but then I think, im struggling too with two children. It's easier for him to cut back than me so just gonna ask him for it.

Either a reduced amount or can he look after them more to help reduce your costs if he's cash poor right now

If your car had broken down and you couldn’t work you’d still have to support/feed/clothe your child so why shouldn’t he?

Why do they think child support is the first thing they can cut back on? The RP doesn't have this option. Makes me so angry for you. I don't know what the answer is. If the arrangement was through the CMS it wouldn't get reduced. I would point that out. That the children won't eat less or need less heating this month because of his shortfall.
Although I have tried every tactic with my ex and haven't seen a penny in over 2 years

@Songbird232018

Either a reduced amount or can he look after them more to help reduce your costs if he's cash poor right now

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You haven’t stated an account you get OP but bear in mind some clever men are all too happy to pay you directly as they know full well to go through CMS they will be paying a lot more £££.

Of course he should still pay, the amount should reduce to reflect his current income, but he should still be contributing. When a resident parent has a reduction in income, is it ok for them to leave the children to starve so they can continue their normal spending in other areas of their life? Or do they make sacrifices luxuries across the bord, so the basic needs of the whole family can be met. It should be no different for non resident parents.