Contact during lockdown, not following rules

[Helenj1977]

Dcs dad is still having his wife's grandchildren around with them and her 19yo daughter is in and out all weekend.

Wwyd? I'm not happy at all. We're sticking to the rules and when they're there it's a free for all.

Are they the childcare or support bubble for the gc?

As for the 19yo,its her home and unless she's breaking the law you cannot really do anything about her either. (teens are particularly difficult to manage in lockdowns imo).

It's up to the father to risk assess. And contsct should continue unless your daughter has to self isolate and even then advice is you have to make up the contact time missed....

Firstly it is none of your business. Likewise what you get up to in your house is absolutely none of theirs.

Secondly you are allowed to provide support, care and childcare for others. Remember not every disability/long term illness is visible.

Thirdly don't your children go to school/nursery?

Finally do you really want your children to stop contact with their dad using Covid as an excuse? Do you realise children grow up and easily hate the parent who tried to stop contact with their other parent? You are better off leaving it, then if and when they want to stop contact when they are secondary age it is much easier for you to help them.

@RedMarauder
Gosh that was a tad harsh. Covid obviously brings about additional fears when children are going between 2 homes. And even harder when you're being careful and on the face of it the other parent isn't....

That was a bit harsh. I'm try to keep us safe and Covid free and they're not safe when they're there.

I was just asking for advice.

Difficult one op, you aren't being unreasonable at all. Are you on good enough terms to talk to your ex about it?
How old are your kids? Old enough to be worried?

We're on good terms. They're 8 and 11 so both in school.

It's just frustrating, I'm being careful and he's not.

Is it possible that they are following the rules?
My 19yo is in and out all weekend because he works or sees a friend (as allowed by the rules).
Is it possible that the grandchildren are in their childcare or support bubble? That's also not against the rules.
Of course you know him best but knowing that he's not breaking the rules might make you feel better?