Hi, I’ve ended up here after googling “ex refusing to use contact book”.
He’s sent our child home half dressed in a little sleeveless dress and a silk scarf tied around their neck, nothing written in the book so I have no idea if she had tea or a nap. She’s still very young so can’t tell me just yet. It’s in the current court order that he has to fill in the book. I feel it’s the start of a battle with it. I have had no direct contact with him for years. We’ve got a social worker at the moment who communicates certain things but she’ll be stepping out soon.
I’m so scared things will never just be settled, he won’t stick to the rules and I will just have to accept that on contact days I will have zero idea of if my child is hungry/tired/been ill/hurt herself etc etc. Unless I communicate with him which honestly would tip me over the edge. He is an incredibly abusive man but unfortunately I couldn’t prove that in court so I have no measures in place other than a very understanding social worker. I can’t even be close to him without shaking.
I guess I’m just looking for reassurance really. I know I can’t stop him doing these things, the court won’t help I know that. But will I cope with it? Any tips?
I’ve got two other children with my first husband and that is a completely different experience. We just get on with it and leave each other alone (with the odd blip) I’ve been a lone parent for years so I know it can be a fairly pain free experience but I know it will never be easy with my second husband. All the things that help make co parenting run smoothly just will never work with an abuser.