How do I get through this?

[gonewiththewind]

I really don't know what to do. My dh of 25 years has just told me that he doesn't want to spend the rest of his life with me. I'm absolutely gutted. I feel like my world has fallen apart. I can't eat, I can't sleep, I'm so restless. Our 3 kids are all teenagers and have lives of their own, I just feel so alone. All our friends are mutual and I don't feel ready to talk to them yet. Please help me sort out this nightmare. Sorry if I sound melodramatic but I feel so lost.

I'm so sorry to hear about your situation.
You don't sound melodramatic at all. I can completely understand that it must be the most awful thing to go through.
I'm afraid that I don't have any specific advice other than to give you a big virtual hug and to reassure you that you will come through this.
I really hope that you have some family or friends that you can confide in. Shoulders to lean on are so important at times like these.

Thank you RuthChan, I know I will come through this, it just seems so hard and unfair. I'm going to my Dr's this morning so hoping that will help. Virtual hug back to you

I am so sorry to hear about this. I am going through something similar at the moment. 10 days ago my dh of 19 years told me that he feels nothing any more.

I had some warning though in that we have been getting more and more distant oveer the past 5 years since we went through a bankrupcy. I wasn't really surprised I think he has felt like this for a long time but was too cowardly to admit it.

I dont know though what I am going to do in the long term (I am outside UK at present) but 'short term' I am just staying put (we don't fight or anything just lead completely separate lives)until my youngest finishes school.

Hi gonewiththewind, I am an another shocked and gutted newly single parent too. I have gone through a whole rollercoaster of feelings and realised 2 months in that he is basicly a selfish stupid git who doesn't know how fantastic I truly am!!!!