Four year old son at his dad's

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For a few months, my four year old son has come home from his dad's house saying they play a game where they barge into the bathroom when his dad's girlfriend is in the shower and laugh.

This doesn't sit easily with me at all. I don't feel like a four year old boy should be taught to laugh at a woman's body, to invade her personal space in what could be seen as quite a humiliating way, whether she is in on the game or not.

My son's dad and I have a very difficult relationship so I tend to not raise things with him but this I find just a bit too much. But then I don't know if I am just overreacting.

Would others have a similar reaction? Single parents who have a shit relationship with their child's other parents - what would you do? Would you raise it?

Why doesn’t she just lock the door

Ask her to lock the door. Sounds a really silly way to behave.

Teach him to knock. And to say Mummy said I always have to knock. And tell your ex that too. Also do you want your son seeing a naked woman?

If she doesn't lock the door and knows that it happens then she must be in on it as a joke.

It's possible this is a child's explanation lacking crucial details too? Like is she actually in the shower washing? Or is it an actual game?

Either way it doesn't sound like it's invading her space because she's probably in on it. You could always explain that exs girlfriend finds it funny but other women might not, so not to do it? Or something along those lines but worded better.

Basically, I'd avoid calling this wrong or bad behaviour because it's likely a joke she's in on, and you're not going to get anywhere fighting it from the angle that it's invading her space.

If she's behind a curtain or a screen or if it's a game they're playing where she's clothed and hiding then he's not even seeing her naked. Although I think you'd be within your rights to ask ex about details and say you're worried about him seeing your exs girlfriend naked for obvious reasons.

Whatever is going on it is totally inappropriate!