Children’s Christmas Preferring one parent

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Hello everyone

My LO has started to tell me he doesn’t want to spend Christmas with his dad we usually alternate Christmases but he’s a little bit older now (6) and starting to assert himself more I have kind of sold it to him that he’s just going to have two Christmases one with dad and one with mum and he seems quite content with this but I’m wondering does everybody alternate Christmases?

What do you do when they get older did they get to pick? Come home in the evening? ex Has been verbally abusive towards me before so nowwe’re not in very good terms at all I have shut him off But I do support his relationship with his son only mentioning this as before I will let him come into the house Or I would pop in on Christmas Daybut now this is out of the question.

I dont have this situation as an adult but as a child I spent it with my mam

I would have hated to be shipped off to my bio dads and would of protested like hell

My DD's get time decide but they are adults. They chose neither of us and are going to their grandparents (rule of 6 means I can't go)

My DD is 11 and isn't keen on going to her dads and we have 50/50!
However she also knows what a scene he will cause if she broaches the subject. So she says it to me but makes me promise not to tell him.

I have this. Eldest 2 (early teens) don’t really want to go to exH this year, but can’t face the fallout so will go. Youngest (8) also worried, and is already wanting me to tell ExH a whole list of things dc is worried about.

It’s shit. I just want them to have a nice day, but they’re not looking forward to it at all.

:/ how awkward to be honest once my lo is a little older I am going to let him decide, it’s just not fair to force them, it’s mean to be a holiday

I think at six, assuming their relationship is ok, he should go. They don't know which day is actually xmas day and you can do one at your house too so he's not "missing it". Mine are tweens and I suspect will not want to go in two years' time when it will be his turn again but at that stage I'll respect their wishes.