Left with baby

[Hopefulmama123]

I would love to hear some stories of hope from people who were left by their partners with a young babies.

My partner left when the baby was 12 weeks old due to MH reasons. I have emplored with him to get help and try and work through things together but he just doesn't seem to want this life anymore. He has completely done a 180 on me. This baby was 100% planned and I thought we were very happy.

Did you go on to meet the love of your life? Or learnt to be happy on your own?

Sorry if I sound quite pathetic, I know I will be happy again one day and I am very very lucky to have my little girl. Just still in the middle of the storm.

Thank you

Hello,
Not sure why I'm the only reply as there must be hundreds of thousands people who have gone on to have incredible lives on their own with children. I fell pregnant at 19, the day I told her dad I was pregnant was the last time I ever saw or spoke to him, he left and I haven't heard a word from him since. She's 12 now. There were times when it was lonely, difficult, and very stressful but then talking to friends who have relationship troubles made me realise that actually I was in a pretty cushy situation! No custody arguments, no sharing birthday/ Christmas, no one to rely on but me. When she was 4 I finished my nursing degree, we've travelled the world, had so many adventures and 4 years ago I met a new guy and now we have 2 more beautiful girls. My advice to you is stop trying to make him want to be involved, it will get you nowhere. He will either come to his senses or not but your baby is still tiny so concentrate on her and screw him. Don't waste these precious first weeks and month mourning what you lost with him and just treasure ever second with your wee one. She'll be a teenager before you know it ☺️ xx

Thank you so much for your story. I find your worlds inspiring. I know you are right, she has grown so quickly already and is so amazing! I need to stop thinking about him and focus more on my daughter and I. Thank you x

My dad left my mum (for the final time) when my sister was 10 months old. My mum hasn't met anyone else but this is more to do with the abuse she suffered than anything else.

We had a wonderful childhood. My mum is my hero and one of my best friends. Neither of you need him. He's the one that's lost out here. He's the one that's going to miss your beautiful daughter growing up.

Not me but I can tell you about my friend?

She was a career woman with a really good stable well paid job and not particular fussed about children but her DH was, so after years of discussion they decided to adopt.

She gave up her career to become a SAHM to a young baby because her DH worked abroad for part of the year. When the baby was 1 she discovered her DH had actually been living a double life, when she divorced him he buggered off abroad permanently, wanted nothing to do with the baby and she had a fight to get any kind of maintenance.

10 years later she's carved out a new (still single and very very happy!) life for herself and her child.

She says she is eternally grateful for her child because she would have discovered her DH was a first class dick at some point anyway but at least her child gave her something to live and fight for a life for

@Mylittlesandwich

My dad left my mum (for the final time) when my sister was 10 months old. My mum hasn't met anyone else but this is more to do with the abuse she suffered than anything else.

We had a wonderful childhood. My mum is my hero and one of my best friends. Neither of you need him. He's the one that's lost out here. He's the one that's going to miss your beautiful daughter growing up.

Thank you. I hope I can be my daughters hero too. I am slowly coming round to this way of thinking from 'why doesn't he love us ' to 'wow he is missing out on his amazing daughter / life / fiancé'

I do worry about him loads but I should focus on us now

@FrangipaniBlue

Not me but I can tell you about my friend?

She was a career woman with a really good stable well paid job and not particular fussed about children but her DH was, so after years of discussion they decided to adopt.

She gave up her career to become a SAHM to a young baby because her DH worked abroad for part of the year. When the baby was 1 she discovered her DH had actually been living a double life, when she divorced him he buggered off abroad permanently, wanted nothing to do with the baby and she had a fight to get any kind of maintenance.

10 years later she's carved out a new (still single and very very happy!) life for herself and her child.

She says she is eternally grateful for her child because she would have discovered her DH was a first class dick at some point anyway but at least her child gave her something to live and fight for a life for

Thank you.

She is definitely giving me something to fight for. She has given a whole new meaning to my life.

It is just sad her father doesn't want to be around, but I will never let her down xxx