bloody ex inlaws, they surely think the sun shines out of his ass.

[pirategirl]

When ex turned up on our doorstep without foning and buggered off, saying I was being unreasonable for not saying dd could go, wel i didnt say she couldnt I just kept asking what right did he think he had turning up, and he left.

I told his parents, and now they have informed me (via email they live in germany) that it was wrong of me to have insulted him, and in front of dd, and what did I expect himto do, and did I expect themto say he was wrong to do this.ie turn up.

WTF

bearing in mind his gf had rung me the night before saying 'poor ex dh' he is sufering.

he is suffering becuase after 2 yrs his dd doesnt want to know, esp when he lets her down.

oh yes, i have spent two yrs sending them stuff, about schoo, making sure they get recent pics, and being on best bending over backwards behaviour to the lot of them, to ensure contact between him, and them when they come over.

I am right fecked off. They actually also ssiad, 'surely you cannot think that ex dh is not suffering with this'

pmsl

i said, its on his own head, i would have had more sympathy if he had EVER pulled his finger out.

I have told them its best we do not have further contact. Plus in my i suppose vindictivness (which is not like me) i have told them how he has sworn at me and a few other choice things they knew nothing about.

I will not have it, he lies to them all the time. It's all backfired on him, and its tough shit. imo.

i am feckin cross. and needed to tel someone, as dd is on bed with croup and i am knackered.

bloody bastards the lot of them. oh yeah i told them he's a pot head too.

sounds like a twat!

i am sad to lose them, but i am incensed, becuase i now that now whatever i say they wont belive, as he is stooping so low to re write the facts of whats happening here.

I know I should prob say nowt and just have a 'how r you' relationship with them. But its not the truth, and i cant be like that anymore, when its just not about them being my inlaws anymore, they are my ex inlaws. They don't wnat to hear about it, they r prob fed up. Yet i also cant see how, if I cant confide in them how i can maitian a worthwhile relationship with them.

gawd its complicated, and it is sad, and my ex motherinlaw is totally duped my him, he hasneverh ad a good word to say about eitherof them the whole tiome i knew him. I used to spend hours with him upset over how he hated them.

someone tell me iabu, telling them not to contact me. i feel awful, they areof course entitled to therir opinion, and he is their son, but EVERYONE makes feckin excuses for him.

I have has the insolvency people on my back cos he's gone bankrupt last week and didnt even tell me, i might be contacted.

i want to move, i want to be rid. I wish i'd never met him. I feel like sulking, i feel like screaming. Why do i always have to be so bloody nice.

arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

God.wot a knob!
You sound completely justified.
Fuck him.

dont think you should cut contact its normal for them to think the best of their son he is their child they will probably see his true colours one day its not fair to punish them for him being a twatand if you never met him you wouldnt have your dd but will put that comment down to man induced rage

i just feel so frustrated.

i think my ex mil knows exactly what her son can be like, drugs, booze, fighting, but will stand up next to him and deny all of it. she told me to leave the house to him as i would be rehomed quicker than he would (its been over a year now), happy for her granddaughter to live in cramped conditions while she had a spare room at hers all along that he could have used but she obviously didnt want him there! wonder why! grr! i don't see why we should have to be nice when they're that arsey! you shouldn't feel bad about anything you've said to him or his parents pirategirl, just do right by lo(s) and don't let them be done wrong by your ex or his family. o yeah, the slagging his parents off behind their back, my ex did that too. but now he's joined at hip to his mum. they just make excuses for each other. its pathetic. and maddening.