Son asking for his dad

[MamaOl93]

My son is nearly 4 and my son’s father has never been involved in his life, so after he showed no interest, I made it clear I didn’t want his family telling him about my son if he himself chose not to see him. However lately my son has been asking for his daddy and I’m really conflicted about what to say, or do. I’m in a very tough position and would really appreciate some advice. Please be kind, this is a delicate situation. Thanks x

Hi Mama. Can you be a little clearer please. Has the Dad never been around. Where is he? Does the Dad want to see his son. Have you told him that his son wants to see him?

I think it's natural that he'd be curious. Do you have a photo that he can see (Maybe get one for social media)? He might find comfort in knowing his name.

The hard part: where he is and why he can't see him
If you don't know where he lives then I'd stick to that as the answer.
Does he know his Dad's family or not?

@Sarahpaula Hi, no his dad has never been around - he left me when I was 5 weeks pregnant. He didn’t want to be involved in my son’s life, but I asked his family if they wanted to be and they did, and still are.

@mediumperiperi hope this answers your question too x

Hi @MamaOl93 that is really sad, and I send you a big hug. It is very difficult. I would suggest that sometimes men walkway in the beginning, and then they do change their mind.

I know it is hard , but I would suggest reaching out to the dad once more, and tell him through his family that his son is asking about him, and wants to see him. I think that your son deserves this chance.

If the dad says again, that he definitely does not want to know his child, I suggest you don't say to the child that the dad does not want to know him, as he may want to in the future, show the child a photo, and keep saying to him about everyone else who loves him. I know it is very difficult

Thanks @Sarahpaula. Big love ❤️

I think the best thing is not to make him mystery young kids can be very accepting of basic answers.
I would suggest a picture

Be honest..

Obviously at an age appropriate level..

My Ds was sheltered from my EX's abuse, doesn't really remember it very watered down.

Through lockdown it came out he thought he didn't see his dad because we didn't get on..They fill in the blanks themselves..

It can be as simple as He didn't want to be a Daddy but having you was the best thing i ever did..Daddy never got to know the amazing ........ boy you are.....

I think 4 is the age they start realising other children have 2 parents.

I feel for you Mama, my ex husband had little interest in our 5 year old and going to school really reinforced that most children have a Daddy at home (nursery was easier because if the staggers drop offs)
I don’t know what to advise, sweeten the pill but don’t lie or give your sin false hope