DS having my last name can my ex change it?

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Im currently pregnant, ex was abusive non molestation order in place.

I am registering the baby alone(not married) the baby will be having my last name. I have DS1 from a previous relationship who also has my last name.

If and when my ex applies to the court etc can the judge order his last name to changed to his? He got bullied and beaten up because of his last name throughout school and when he was an adult. I dont want that for my DS or to be reminded of him further. I dont want it to be double barrelled as it will be even worse...

I don't believe he can and don't put him on the birth certificate.

Very doubtful.

No way would he get a name change - you weren't even married! - tradition is that a baby has it's MOTHER'S name... it's just that most mothers were married. There is no hierarchy AT ALL that says his name is more important than yours... so if the baby is registered with your name, the absolute best he can hope for is a double-barrel. Which you can drop, and have him known as your name etc.

He quite possibly would not even get that with the history of abuse plus his sibling having your name too - you could argue that it's best for the siblings to be the same.

He probably won't even try.

Sorry meant to say most mothers were married and changed their name to the father's.

No. He can't. My have mine name. One doesn't have DC on the birth certificate ,one does. My advice would be to "disappear" on social media -literally delete all your account. Change your name, number, email, address -everything. Do not put his name on the BC or anything.

Looking back I wish I had done this - I was married. Being unmarried changes everything. No automatic rights etc. Stop all contact with mutual friends etc.

If he challenges and goes to court then most likely surname will become double barrelled. This is very common. Especially when father is also applying for an order in relation a child arrangments order. Your surname will not be removed.

@Sayitaintsoiwillnotgo

Surely if the child would be bullied it would not be double barreled? Its worse than his actual surname. I dont want any reference and I have messages saying the child could have my last name(keeping them for evidence)

@FizzyGreenWater he is being extremely manipulative and even contesting the non molestation. I am going to the police in a couple days to make a statement about him raping me multiple times. I do not want the child to have the same name as my abuser.

@MsKeats I have removed all social media, I only have Facebook messenger. He cannot be on the BC as there is a non molestation. Im aware he can apply for parental rights but he will have to prove hes the father first. I have changed my number etc. I cannot move house unfortunately(its a council house) I am looking to move ASAP when the baby is born due to the risks.