Contact with children......what have you and your ex agreed to?

[Upsadaisy]

Ex is wanting our children every other weekend from fri from school through to taking them to school mon morning, but that would mean they would only see him 3 days out of 14. However the idea of having a full weekend to myself is extremely appealing. Just wondering what you all do?

when i split xdp had ds for one night and that was literally all it was and it was nice to have a break but so so annoying as i gave ds over about 4 and got him back at about 2pm so it wasnt very long.

xdp now has him from friday pickup at 415 to 4pm sunday and it is lovely. This will soon increase to dropping him at school on monday.

I wont allow anymore than that though as i think his next move might be one week on one week off which i am not allowing

Hi, my ex sees my DCs (9,7 +5) once a week for tea (2 hours).

Depends on the age of your children if your ex's suggestion is reasonable. If they are younger, then to only see him once a fortnight - and for them to be away from you for 4 full days may be a bit unsettling. Maybe he could drop them back sunday teatime and then have them for tea one night on his 'week off'?

If they are older then his suggestion will probably work out well, and give you a nice rest!!

We were seeing dsd every 3rd weekend and half the school holidays (2 weeks in the summer). We would have seen her more often had her mum agreed. Recently dsd herself started to ask to come more often, her mum eventually agreed, so now it's every other weekend and 3 weeks in the summer.

Dsd was very clear that she didn't think it fair that she spent more of the summer holidays with her mum than with her dad, and she also thought it unfair that her dad never got to see her on Christmas Day, so that is now alternated as well at her request. She also wants to spend mother's day and her mum's birthday with her mum and father's day and her dad's birthday with us. Until recently dh could only ever see her on those days if they happened to fall on "his" weekend.

My ex and I do shared care as he arranges his work around it. We get on well though, he's here at the moment helping ds2 with his jigsaw then taking them out for tea.
He'll pick them up tomorrow and I'll get them back Thursday after school.

My dc are supposed to got to their dad's every other weekend (Fri - Sun), he has them 2 weeks during the summer and one halfterm holiday. Quite often one or both dc choose not to go and there are times when he cancels, usually at very short notice and with very lame excuse. We also altenate Christmas, they are with me this year.

That seems reasonable. My ex has my daughter 12-5 saturday only. Id rather he did a weekend every other week- hardly seems worth it for 5 hours- also hes out fri,sat and sunday every week where as i have to try to get sitters to get to go out. At least u will have some quality 'me' time if its a longer period than just an afternoon..

My stepsons come to our house every other weekend from Friday after school until Monday morning when my partner drops them at school.

They also come to us on Wednesday at 4pm and stay overnight and will soon be coming on Thursday nights too.

So we will soon be having them 7 nights out of every 14.