Ex and I split 2018, DD has just started full time school, it's been a bit of a nightmare over the last 2 years as Ex took me to court, threw allegations all over the place then backed out at the last minute- we now have a court order giving Ex EOW Thursday to Monday, plus a night in the other week.
We have been doing WO/WO during the pandemic. And a month or so ago Ex asked that he only have DD EOW fri-mon as he "can't cope with any more"
So yes ok, all fine, fight me in court to get the access you want, then decide it doesn't suit your social life 🤷♀️
I have just spent £140 on school uniform, will be paying for school dinners, all trips, piano lessons etc etc.
Ex refuses to contribute to these costs, refuses to discuss it, and says he can't afford child maintenance.
As far as I know Ex works pretty much full time as a self employed person, but is not registered as self employed- essentially working illegally- he tells me he is on UC but I don't actually believe him.
I can't force him to pay CM can I? It's so so frustrating as it's more about the principal that the money, we would manage without it, but it would be a help, and it pisses me off that I am the bad guy, and an 'unfit parent' but he won't contribute and drops her when it suits!