Scared of what hes going to tell her

[ProudMum2b]

Hello all. My ex is a manipluative bully who says that i am a horrible person for bringing a baby into the world without its mum and dad together (he split with me and then a couple of weeks later i found out that i was pregnant). He puts me down and says that its my fault hes not going to have a proper relationship with the baby ( we now live an hour apart) He causes me so much stress and anxiety and tells me i have not involved him in anything, ive always involved him in scans etc but hes off because i didnt get the pram that he wanted me to get. He is a horrible person, i have not contacted him in a while, i am terrified of what he is going to say to our daughter when she is older, if he says its my fault that he didnt see her much or something along those lines, please help i feel i am at breaking point. I am due in 6 weeks. Thankyou x

well if your going to let him spend a lot of time with her it would be his fault not yours if he doesnt bother how long has it been since you have been in contact?lots of parents arnt together and the children have happy normal childhoods what did he want you to do abort her rather then have parents who ar not together

Whoa give yourself a break! You have made a courageous decision, and once your daughter is born you will need to teach her that you love her and the potential problems with the mb will be sorted out later! Don't be so hard on yourself. If he's causing any problems sort them out as they happen you never know he may have more respect for his daughter than he has for you. I would avoid bad mouthing him to your daughter. Is his name going to be on the birth cert if so it might be an idea to get some legal advice with regard to jurisdiction ,maintenance etc.Hope the birth goes well and just keep reminding yourself that you are this childs mother and you love her and want whats best for her.

Hi Proudmumtobe. I was in a similar situation a long time ago. Brought my child into the world completely on my own but that was his choice at that time. All I can say is that your baby will be beautiful and well done to you. Whatever happens with the dad dont let him put you down for your decision. Care for your baby and yourself first and foremost and whatever role he wants to play when she is born then let him. if YOU are ok with it. Good luck to you both and dont look back, look forward, to all the joy you and your baby will have with or without him.