Anyone else's child angry after coming back from dads house?

[november90]

My 3.5 year old son came home fri morning and his behaviour has been absolutely shocking. The worst behaviour I have ever seen. He's so angry, he won't do anything he's asked, he kicks off about everything.....
I literally can't believe his behaviour.
Ex and I split this year and we are NOT on good terms so I can't talk to him.
I've had the worst 2 days off my life with his behaviour married up with my ex demanding custody and making threats.
Send help!!!

I used to be like this. I was angry with dad for leaving and not really caring or making much effort. So would kick off at mum when I came home because I knew it was safe. Your boy may be feeling like this but unable to express it- I certainly didn't see it for years. So the only advice I have is to not take it personally and try to reassure him that you both still care about him. Good luck

He is very little to be so angry, are you sure your ex is looking after him properly, feeding him appropriately (not nasty high e number rubbish) , putting to bed properly etc

I know everyone likes to jump to ex not looking after child but this could also just be a reaction to moving between households and being unsettled. Could even be upset that parents have split, could be blaming mum, dad or both for the split.

There are so many reasons, just remember as bad as it is for you to split and deal with custody/residency problems it's worse for your child. It's his life that's being messed with and he doesn't yet have a say in it. He's bound to act out, just try and be there for him and work out what the problem is. Don't immediately assume neglect, that's not going to help.

Ds1 used to be like that when coming home from his Dad's. It took me a while to work it out but it was essentially that he was hungry. Ds1 had a big appetite but his Dad used to feed him 'toddler' amounts. When he got a bit older he would go to friends for tea and then come home and eat another one. He just felt bad about asking for more food. He is an adult now but still as skinny as a rake. He also used to come back from his Dad's often with nits.

I know for a fact that my ex doesn't discipline him. He came home with no shoes on and shorts on Friday when it was pouring down with rain (he kicks off about getting dressed amongst everything else!).
His behaviour has just been awful, he won't do a single thing and I'm a single mum with a baby!
I spoke to the dv helpline today and she did say keep an eye out for behavioural issues following him coming home.
I'm not pointing fingers but I just cannot believe what's going on!
Where's my little boy gone 😢