Holidays with ex. Hand hold please.

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My children have only ever been away from me for one night at a time.

Yesterday they went away in a 10 day holiday with ex. Neither wanted to go and we're very tearful this morning on a FaceTime.

I know I am being silly, but I just worry about them so much.

To avoid a drip feed. Ex has always been a hands off parent and a Disney dad on his 2 days fortnightly. He is useless with the day to day care. It's always a struggle to get them to go every 2 weeks.

Tips and handhold needed to get through the next 10 days 😭😩

Don’t FaceTime them. It will make it worse for them and you.

What age are your kids OP?💐

big big hugs OP

how old are they?

What age are they my ex was a rubbish dad st the basics but once the kids got to a. Age they could tell him they were hungry or thirsty I was less worried.

I agree I wouldn't be phoning or face timing. It is upsetting for everyone but i can imagine how hard that would be.

Have you got some plans for the next few days. Keep busy and hope the time goes quickly.

Sending virtual hugs and a hand hold. I had my first two weeks this year and you know what it wasn't as bad as i thought it would be. Know its hard but try and keep yourself busy.

Thank you all for taking the time to reply.

They are 5 year old twins. So they can ask for things and speak up.

It's really hard to find the FaceTiming balance. Ex refuses to communicate so wouldn't reply to any texts if I were to message to see how they are for example.

I've made lots of plans to try and keep busy.

Just counting down the days!

That's awful must be so hard. my STBXH is useless too and we are in the process of separating I guess I will have this to look forward to. Massive hug to u and all l can suggest is as u r doing keep yourself busy make plans when ur friends and maybe plan something nice for when they come back xx

I know it feels hard but in a way you are better not knowing- if they are not having a nice time you can't do much.

I know rhat us really hard. But i agree it won't get easier by talking all the time - keep busy, catch up with friends / family if possible.

I say all this but i would feel thr same