Isnt it quite incredible how bad a relationship has to be before you finally put an end to it?

[charliecat]

Split up with xp in May...
Just beginning to realise how nasty it had become.

Well done you. RL kicking in?

I think so

whats up chuck?

btw your move on scrabble

oh bugger no you just took a turn when i wasnt looking!

now its your turn!

Yes this has happend to me - I wake up angrier each day to think of what I tolerated.

I feel so low

Or isn't it amazing how bad it gets and some women don't leave??

not me - my sister.

Id be so proud of her if she did.

will take turn in min lou...
zookeeper, dont be down about it, be proud that youve got away...really you are the envy of many, isnt that true kitsandbits?

(my wave isnt here yet LOL)

i split with not so dh at beginning of july. he was and still is an alcoholic, went years without drink but still had the personality. Final straw was when i found out he was drinking again.

TBH in a way i was glad, almost that it gave me the excuse to get out of a crap relationship.

Of course....he is now the "victim" who has got himself signed off work with depression, while i am in a job i love, kids have adjusted really well and i am having a whale of a time on smooch.

Not emotionally ready for a relationship, but hell, its fun to flirt....lol

i'm winning btw

I lookback at two relationships and am and at what I put up with.

I put up with an awful lot before I got out, but it does take a while to gain the confidence to make such a huge step.

my exh CALLED me today from thailand!

Really? What did he want?

Once I have tidied my house a bit, I will be on MSN!

i have to go out in about 40 mins, have just driven nearly 3 hours ona round trip and am a bit tired

it was weird, he wanted to tell me he was back for sure on sunday and asked if he could call the kids tomorrow

Not good news then?

he doesnt know where i am staying for hte next few weeks tho lol

yossa, what is smooch?

I only have to look at what i put up with now and feel wish I could change things, but, alas.

Smooch is a datihg site, as is plentyoffish, a few of us have had dates/good laugh on them.
Radley, am I right in thinking your dh/dp is the one that didnt help do anything and you came in to do the decorating?

Yep, can't believe some of the crap I used to put up with. To have to wake up every morning and have my heart sink the minute xp opened his mouth, used to make me so miserable.

Now I wake up to ds jumping all over me saying 'hug first then breakfast'

Sometimes I can't believe I didn't have a heart attack or something how stressed I used to feel.

This morning, I am sat here on mn with loud music on and the kids are on the wii. If xp was here he'd be moaning about all of that.

He is looking after ds today whilst i take the girls out. Ds trod in dog mess yesterday, so have left him that to sort out lol.

Oh yes, xp opening his mouth and my heart would sink. Never anything nice coming out of it...ever. If he would just keep it shut,a nd never say anything we could have gone on another couple of years LOL

This doesnt require a new thread, but I just have to have a little rant....
feel free to ignore.
Xp has just been on the phone for 53 seconds, to tell me, for the 2nd time in 20 mins, that he will be over once hes had a shower. And not only was it the second FARKING phone call to tell me the same thing....in 53 seconds, he said in the shower 5 times.
[rant]
Fucking hell........................

I'm in a shocking situation but don't know how I can afford to leave him! His take on things is that if we are not arguing then we are ok, wtf!!

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