so i have a contact order with ex 2 days a week 10-5 our ds stayed over for the first time last week, as ex has been harrassing me over and over and i just cant take it anymore. There was dv (mentally) in our relationship. Our ds is really upset during the days of contact and the day after, he has night terrrors shouting mummy mummy. So i was hesitant to let overnights happen but ive tried it and its not gone well, ds didnt and wont whenever he goes to his dads do a number 2, ex came to meeting point( we meet in public as the order says) 40 mins late, he has been late picking up and dropping off at least once a week, also has cancelled contact saying he is ill but goes out with mates. He turned up with 2 girls in the car (early 20s) and handed ds over to me in just a t shirt no underwear/nappy, now he said because he had wet himself twice while out ( he has been potty trained since march), he says nothing to me gets in the car and drives off. I messaged to ask why ds was naked in a car with 2 people i have never seen before, and told him ds has been crying holding his tummy i asked had he been toilet he said no. He also said whoever is in his car has nothing to do with me which i dont care who he is with what i care about is ds being naked, and also we are in local lockdown so shouldnt be mixing with others outside household.
Im so upset and angry that i dont want ds to go to contact at weekend, does anyone else know what they would do?? Ive spoke to solicitor she has said i can stop contact with a good reason and she thinks if he cant give me a good enough explanation as to why he was naked and with 2 people he doesnt know then i can stop contact. Any advice would be appreciated 😔