Any one else newly single?

[DavidTennantsMistress]

just thinking there's a few of us I think going thru the same thing now (or roughly the same thing - same boat anyways) and thought we could support each other in these early days.

i've had to name change after H was reading my posts so far things have calmed down and he's being v nice- not sure if he's intrested or not - tbh if he is he'll have to date me again and i'll still move out etc and take things from there, but knowing my H he won't admitt he's made a mistake.

we've had some really shit times, incl me snatching DS away from him (had found out some stuff about him and another girl - got ugly) so far i'm keeping positive and adopting the couldn't care less attitude and i'm getting on wiht things- trying to make him see what he's missing - no idea, but he seems to be slightly more intrested - is being v nice - has shown MIL in her true light thou - a 2 faced bitch.

anyhow feel free to rant and rave and we'll get thru it all together - ooh and today 10 days after my IS/TC claims went in I have a C claim approved YAY! jsut waiting for IS and also to do a course. - again H keeps asking what course I want to do - no idea yet - might be making conversation but I don't know - I guess when you say you don't love someoen any more it's final - but his actions are not really coming from a man who feels like that.

just me then - althou i'm erm 3 weeks on now - still raw thou .going home on the 12th so am expecting more crap to come out then and will be without the internet/MN.

not newly single but here anyway

am I right in thinking you are on the summer swap? did you receive it in the end?

yes I was (under my old name) an no haven't had anything yet H keeps me informed when he rings/I ring - which is roughly every 3/4 days or so.

oh no there were a lot seemed to go wrong this time round

Not newly single(nearly 2 yrs now) but wishing you luck for the future and i hope things work out in the way you hope.
(Haven't got my swap yet either!)

I saw lol - a lot of us have been waiting I think?

how it turns out well is anyones guess tbh i'm not sure how I want H and I to work out - well tbh I know one thing for sure - i'm moving back home getting a house and getting on wiht my life - he can stay doing his job and can commute and stay away all week/come home on weekends (assuming he wants to try again - but tbh I know he prob won't)

I wasn't sure if to ask him for a drink or something? - is that a costomary thing to do? he keeps saying you're wrong I don't love you etc but then on the other hand is intrested/kind and takes 10 minutes to think of things when I tell him what i'm thinking/feeling- ie the firmness he's saying things is almost like he's convinceing himself not me. I think there's more to it he won't say. he's in with a load of single/newly divorced (and bitter divorces) lads in work who seem to have got him thinking the single life is better

I would wait - but how long do you wait for?

you don't wait, you decide what is right for you and do it, then let him make his own choices. you cannot let him rule you're life or he'll just keep you dangling

I know which is why i'm moving back here regardless. I like having my own money now and paying my own bills.

I don't know what's goin on in his head. but I really can't stand the thought of him being with someone else - he doesn't seem fazed by me being with someone else thou - there wa a time when I couldn't even tlak to another bloke for him getting jelous (sp). all the fight has gone from him with regards to us thou

Hi I am in the process of becoming single, dreading telling the kids H is moving out. I really don't know how they will react.

Not as worried about the finances as I was, starting to make sense of it all and I think I will be OK, big thing still to sort out is the mortgage.

Its shit isn't it, for the past 10 years I have felt hard done by and had no freedom really guess what it will still be the same he gets the kids when its convenient and stills plays the bacholar boy , he says he doesn't love me any more, I wouldn't either I suppose I have spent the past 10 years being a mum and everything else was on hold, he has carried on the same and I am dumped because I am a frumpy old mum.

Sorry rant over I have to be positive, I have 2 amazing children, I am starting a new course at Uni and I have to get on with it.

ATM I am swinging between wanting it to all be normal for the kids, hating him for doing this and still being in love with him and wanting him to make a go of it. argh!!!

So chim up everyone. We can do this (can't we)

oh skibble thats exactly the position i'm in - but one child and no morgage! lol.

we can do this!

hi im sort of newly single...well 4 months...XP left when i found out I was pregnant! im now 28 weeks...and getting on with life..although im sure the dating game is waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay in the future for me with my little bundle of joy due at xmas!
Just wanted to say hi and wish you luck! xx

bloody hell what a git!

I'm nearly single!!

I'm in the process of moving out of the house I share with my partner. I have 20month old DD. He is 42 but couldnt handle responsibility of having a child after so many years of doing what he wants! He has been staying out all night (playing cards apparently) and a few months ago said it will be best if we split up. Its his house so me and DD are leaving. I am buying a flat which completes at the end of October. Will miss him but can't wait to be myself again.

Can I join? My DP moved out at beginning of August after enormous row in May which was the final straw for me.

He is very upset; his way of dealing with it is to coompletely deny my existence - he had had his phones switched off for four weeks now and I have gven up trying to contact him to try to make him see our three dcs.

I am very up and down but feel that I havwe done the right ti just hope he will become more reasonable. I really eny those single mums whose exes see the children regularly.

I have three - the eldest is six - and work two days a week

I must check my posts before I post them!

sorry you girls have had to join us.

your ex's sound awful - I can't understand these men who won't entertain their LO's I know my (X)H is not the best but to be fair when I ring him he asks to speak to DS, althou that said by the time we go back it will be 3 weeks since he saw him last.

things are still friendly for the minute.

got a new hair do and feling fab today - how are u girls feeling?

Some terrible exs on here.
My xp2 (DD1 and DD2's dad) was physically and emotionally abusive to my ds1.

I had a housing association man round today to fix my front door. He asked me if i would go out for a few drinks with him!! Shame he was in his 40s and wrinkly! If he had been young and fit it would of been great.

LMAO! sounds like ym luck - my mate is moving in with a man 9 months after leaving her H (she did the leaving) she thinks clubbing is the way to go - seriously a with my hips and b babysitters are in short supply!

im feeling ok about it all really...think i did all my mourning when the git left....Just looking fwd to my little bundle of joy....and hopefully a relationship again some time in the future! His loss...thats the way i see it, althougu know its not going to be easy at times!

oh dear have just disgraced myself - ex's phone bill arrived at my house - called the mobile number that is all over it - he has a new woman. He's only been gone a couple of months and not seen then dcs since

I have just texted her offering to send her my vibrator as she''ll need it

Feel momentarily good but pathetic really.

oh no zoo I am so sorry to hear that - I went off the wall at H talking on MSN with someone. how horrid.

like the message thou - she will learn - jsut rememeber you're better off out of it (I know that's hard to do thou)

beller - too right it's his loss- and the LO will know (i'm hoping for my DS) that I was there and his daddy wasn't.

as for me all is quite on the western front - have a new hair do, finally a social life! money in the bank (a first for me for soooooo long! lol) so I will be going home next fri looking fantastic sticking 2 fingers up at H and basically terlling him to bugger off it's his loss- the weight's fallin off as well. asked H for a drink on tues when I go up (no set date or anything)- left it sort of a if u want to/you don't have 2 etc etc and he agreed - I was amazed he did agree tbh. will be nice to have a drink with the girls and H - might make him see some sence? who knows.

also got an apt for a house on monday so fingers crossed

sad thing thou a friend of miine has had to join our club have pointed her in our direction. still she cleaned the loobowl with her H's toothbrush - the same day he cleaned his teeth with it! LMAO! classic!