Struggling I so depressed

[mumof5cn]

So back at the beginning of April I left an abusive partner when my youngest baby was about 5-6wks. I have 5 children.

I am struggling so bad. Not with single life. Not with the baby. Not with the 3 older children. But with my 3yr old, to the point where I'm so depressed and tearful constantly.

He has been thru a lot and I feel so bad for feeling the way I do.

He sleeps with me, he won't sleep unless he is physically touching me, he doesn't know quiet, he's keeps everyone up kicking off at bed time, when he wakes up everyone gets woke up, he does not listen - ever! He won't share. He won't let the baby sleep, he is constantly in her face, he refuses meals, screams and hits out for no reason, I can't take him out as he has no road sense or will refuse to walk, I have no support. My friends have walked away and my family don't want to know.

I'm so lonely and depressed and struggling

So the 3 yr old is the final straw, so to speak. He might have SEN/ASD/ADHD or he might have none of those at all. YOu have 3 older children so you have a good idea what children can be like and if this is really unusual.

Take him to you GP if you're able and describe all the behaviours? A lot of the behaviours could be caused by sensory issues.

My son was very much like that at that age. He did grow out of the behaviours over time but it was very very hard. Mine has ASD although now it's hard to tell.

I hope you can get some help

After posting that I wish I could delete it. (come mumsnet, you can delete your posts on reddit)

You obviously have an awful lot on your plate without looking for GP appointments. Sometimes children go through phases. Maybe in 6 mo things will be so much better.

I understand what it's like to have to everything on your own. It's unbelievably hard. I never had family help out and XH avoided being home as much as possible. When my marriage ended there was no change except I didn't have to sleep with a monster anymore. So much better but I honestly don't know how I made it this far.

Anyways, there''s always posts about lonliness and depression on here. I think there's so many of us...

Firstly and , you have been through loads and have a big can't to care for.

Your 3yo has had a tough time. And his babviour sounds really hard. But he maybe hard some tough times? Can you get health visitor help, are the children's centres still in existence near you?

As much as you want to get him away probably, so you and baby get space, is it possible the opposite might work? So loads of attention, loads of affection?

I'm so sorry it's hard.

Stupid typo, big can't should be 'big family'

Op, my ds at three was a nightmare to take anywhere.

I bought some reins so he couldn’t run into traffic or disappear in a shop. They were a game changer, I relaxed, he stopped fighting me so much and he slept better because he walked everywhere and so was properly tired. Might be worth a try.