My husband left me at 24 weeks pregnant. Complete and utter shock, he always told me he was happy and loved me!
He was absolutely vile after. Threatened court when he didn't get his own way, blaimed absolutely everything on me, blocked all my family and friends off social media, refusing to pay our joint finicial debts, refused to pay for any new baby items, was absent at the birth of our second baby.... the list goes on and on and on.
Anyway... he has our eldest son 2 nights a week. I suggested he takes our new baby (who is 10 weeks old now) our for a couple of hours before he takes DS1 but he didn't commit to it and to this day he's never taken him out... doesn't really ask after him unless in conversation... sometimes picks him up when he picks DS1 up but not always.
I know my ex. One day he will turn around and just expect to be able to take him... whether it's tomorrow or at 6 months and I completely reject this. Just like he did with Ds1. He didn't do much as far as looking after him up until he left and then started demanding joint custody. He has no bond with him (DS2) and he shows very little interest which would make me feel extremely uncomfortable him having him for long days. For example, DS2 has his jabs and was very unwel after them, ex knew this. It took him 1 week to ask how he was despite within this time seeing us when picking DS1 up and texting each other about something unrelated.
It breaks my heart. He broke my heart when he left me and our son. I frankly only agreed to 2 nights as he threatened court and was manipulating me. I'm happy DS1 is safe but wouldn't agree to anymore time and I don't think he's a good influence. I feel like he's going to break DS2 heart too. He's rejected so much of his life so far because of his own ego! Has anyone else been in this boat? How do I even process all of this?