EOW to 50/50 by force

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Hi all

Feeling really down my x is threatening me with court to have 50/50 access we have a cao which is standard eow with a weekday overnight alternating. LO is settled and would struggle to be away from home for that long I could not see that working, we also don’t get along at all.

Any advice? Will the court force us into a difficult situation from a stable one? Ultimately it would lead to more fights and breaches of court order as it just won’t work :(

Is he the type to be arsed organising it all? He'd have to take you to court.

What sort of man is he? MANY men threaten this as a way to feel they have some sort of power to hold over women.

Especially abusive men. Was he abusive? Has he got a job etc?

I hope you don't mind but I've just looked at your previous posts. He has NO chance.

We're talking about a man living in a shared flat with non-family members.

A man who has been abusive verbally.

NO HOPE.

Keep a record of all his messages. Don't be drawn into conversation with him.

Does he message you much? Call you?

Mine demanded this. Didn't take too long for EOW to go to once a month, then 6 weeks. They're due a visit today after not seeing him for 10 months...

It's all control. How is he proposing to make 50/50 work? (I have friends who did 50/50 from day one, I know it can work, as well as any other co-parenting arrangement can, but it can also be a disaster from the kids pov if parents aren't doing it entirely in the child's best interests)

hi @FortunesFave thank you for your response. Scary I do think it is about control. Looking back yes too many phonecalls and texts, I have a record and I have stopped engaging in arguments or lengthy text exchanges, I can only say I should have done this way sooner.

We have a very strained relationship he has told me before he is jealous of me many times and wants everything by half. I know this is likely to go to court and is not a bluff.

I have no doubt that when both parents are in agreement 50/50 works but this is not going to work because the little one won't be able to cope well with chopping and changing his schedule he is already having ELSA support at school and we fight like cats and dogs in between periods of peace.

I am mostly worried he will push for extra time on paper to the point which will undermine my arrangements upset the little one. I just see no need to change the existing arrangement as it is working for little one.

Muppetry76 (love the name) this is already a disaster and its not even 50/50, there have been many inappropriate fights infront of little one.