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Urgh, I hate sundays

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nutcracker · 30/09/2007 11:01

I hated them when I wasn't a single mum, but hate them ever more now.

Just had a crap discussion with xp too, not an argument, no raised voices at all, but I felt so shitty and unfair, and he sounded so crushed still.

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AMAZINWOMAN · 30/09/2007 11:22

I find sundays hard too. Sundays are traditionally family days-visiting families for sunday lunch, dads taking sons to football matches etc

They are just a reminder of what you havent got arent they!

plus the public transport is useless on a sunday-so you cant even escape!

KerryMum · 30/09/2007 11:34

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fireflyfairy2 · 30/09/2007 11:36

Oh nutty.

If it's any concolation I hated Sundays when I was young & my parents were together.

As a result of Sunday morning rows every week it has taken me a good few years to accept it as an ordinary day.

Hopefully the result of your driving lessons will mean you & the kids will be able to have days out on a Sunday after that

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nutcracker · 30/09/2007 11:36

We have been split up for erm nearly 18mths now, but had a bit of a setback the other week , and I have found it really hard since then.

You're right amazinwoman, they are so a reminder of what I don't have and can't do. Before sundays would have meant a lie in, bacon and egg sarnies and then some window shopping, or diy or something.

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nutcracker · 30/09/2007 11:38

Had to call a halt to the driving lessons fff, no money. Hoping to start again after xmas though, or before if I ever get a job.

I liked sundays as a child because we went to my nans, as did the rest of the family, and we always had such a laugh. It's never been the same since then.

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InMyHumbleOpinion · 30/09/2007 11:38

I hate them too, nuttym, they are horrible when you are single parent. You don't have your usual distractions and fall backs that you have on any other day of the week, because all your mummy mates are busy with their partners, and all the shops are shut!

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nutcracker · 30/09/2007 11:40

Oh well, suppose I should try and find something to do.

Ds is rather quiet, perhaps I'll go see what he is up to LOL

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nutcracker · 30/09/2007 11:41

I don't think I know the answer to that at the mo Kerrymum, I feel so confused.

I am not having him back, that I am certain of, as I'd need a cast iron garuntee that it would work, and thats something no relationahip has.

I am just really struggling as to why I suddenly miss him so much.

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KerryMum · 30/09/2007 11:43

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fireflyfairy2 · 30/09/2007 11:43

Can't you still do bacon & egg sarnies?

I would! Believe me I don't need the excuse of a man here to be able to eat a fry up

I am up from 8am this morning.. so no lie in for me either Went to mass at 9am & am now getting ready to prepare dinner... Nothing exciting ever happens here on a Sunday

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nutcracker · 30/09/2007 11:45

Oh yeah I can still do them, and fry ups, but xp used to do them before, and I hate cooking lol, am lazy.

Not been out at all KM, nor met anyone, not sure I want to.

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fireflyfairy2 · 30/09/2007 11:49

Do you regret your 'set back'?

Doesn't sound like Xh regrets it though..

what happened with the other woman? The one who lived near you?

madamez · 30/09/2007 11:49

Make Sunday some sort of a treat day - cook faveourite foods for both you and your DC or make it the one day of the week you have chocolkates or something.
I work at least one sunday a month and beofer I had DS sundays were usually hangover days, so it doesn't bother me over much now (well am in filthy temper today but that due to yesterday's total travel f*ckup and missing v important work related party). But remember that all thouse 'happy' couples are just as likely to be hating each other or fighting all day...

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nutcracker · 30/09/2007 12:00

I don't particularly regret the set back no, it was good and I enjoyed it , just complicated things.

He isn't seeing the other woman anymore, as he eventually figured out that she had no intention of having a relationship with him, it was just a big game to her. I am still having a bit of trouble with her, as she is spreading roumours around school about me, but I am ignoring it as much as poss, because I know she is dying for me to react.

I would love to work sundays tbh.

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macdoodle · 30/09/2007 13:22

TBH I hated Sundays more when we were together - was "his" day in the pub (sooo not like every other day then??)...made it more obvious what a crap H he was and what we were missing ...now I can do what I want without rushing so he could get to pub and feeling angry/resentful/upset.....Sundays are mine now

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nutcracker · 30/09/2007 15:21

My ex wasn't a pub type of bloke. He liked us all going out as a family to the pub for a drink and a meal, but wouldn't go on his own or with friends.

I keep feeling like I am making a mistake not having him back today. I'm sure it will pass, and tommorow I won't care, but god it is weird.

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InMyHumbleOpinion · 30/09/2007 15:44

But Nutcracker don't you remember that you weren't ever allowed out on your own?

InMyHumbleOpinion · 30/09/2007 15:47

www.mumsnet.com/Talk?topicid=7&threadid=58216#1303679

Read this and see if it cheers you up, knowing that it's not your life anymore!

Pinkchampagne · 30/09/2007 16:03

I'm not keen on Sundays either, nutty.
My ex husband has taken the children round to my parents house for dinner, and mum invited me too, but I declined the offer!

gocat · 30/09/2007 17:46

My ds's are at xp's this weekend, and it's my nieces 11th birthday. I went out for a meal with my sister and har family and my parents to celebrate, but mainly felt like the spinster sister, what with no partner and no kids with me. Yes indeed, sundays can really bring it home to you just how dysfunctional life can be. Having said that, the grass is definately not always greener, just feels like that sometimes.

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nutcracker · 30/09/2007 19:02

InMyHumbleOpinion, who were you before ??

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InMyHumbleOpinion · 30/09/2007 20:18

cold itz

compo · 30/09/2007 20:21

Nutty - sorry to hear you feel so down
That woman he went out with sounds a right bitch! I bet you are glad she won't be having any more to do with the kids.

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nutcracker · 01/10/2007 08:10

Ahhhh, I see, was racking my brains trying to think who it was lol.

I read through that old thread last night, and it did make sad reading tbh, but the odd thing was that I don't feel like I have got very far since then, and it was over 2 years ago.

Xp rang here last night drunk, and we ended up having a row.

Compo - Unfortunatly my kids do still have to see and speak to her, as she is now their dinner lady. Dd2 struggles with this a bit , but has mastered the art of giving her a look that could kill lol.

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