No one to share the good stuff with. Feeling sad and lonely

[RoryGilmoresEvilTwin]

I'm 42 and a lp to an 8 year old boy.
I've been feeling this more and more over the last couple of years, but it's just hit me like a tonne of bricks today.

I'm so bloody lonely and I honestly can't see a way out of it.
I found out today that I've passed my 2nd year of uni, and passed it well. I'm on track to get a first in a science subject.
Suffice to say, it's hard!
I've made a lot of sacrifices to be able to pursue this and instead of just being bloody chuffed that another year is done and dusted, and I'm doing well, I'm really really down.
I could cry I'm so lonely and in all honesty, I'm feeling very sorry for myself!

Someone kick me up the arse please!

Huge congrats op on your uni results for the year. It's seriously impressive that you're juggling uni and being a lp.

Could you and your ds bake a cake together tomorrow to celebrate?

I think you and your ds need to plan a celebration of your success. Make a big thing of it. Can you get together with some family (social bubble?) and have a special meal? Treat yourself to acknowledge your achievement.

You have the summer off studying. Can you start a new activity that will help with the social side now that places are starting to reopen? Give your social life a higher priority for the next two months.

Congratulations! I work in a
Uni in the arts so know how tough science is. Can you have a celebration with your DS?

Another congrats here! But i can hear that it is hard having no other adult to share that with. You are being a remarkable role model to your child. The loneliness is hard to fix. But i tend to start small by smiling at people and being kind at bus stops and shops and it makes me feel good and i feel less isolated.

I'd also recommend an exercise i did with my counsellor. It involved working out what my core values are (lots of tools to help with this online) and then assessing whether they are being met or not yourself and small realistic adjustments i can make to make sure they are being met. My thinking is that meeting all of your other needs will take your focus off loneliness for a while and make you feel more positive until some new relationships or people who are good for you enter your life. It also gave me an element of control. And me prioritise myself and what i need to be happy, which is so hard to do as a single parent. I now realise that things i had labelled indulgences wrongly are actually needs. When my needs are met i am a better mother, colleague and friend etc. I in turn have more to give others which makes me feel good x

I can sympathise with you . It’s tough being a single parent especially with Covid 19. Well done for your success and I am sure it will benefit you. Do go out and celebrate together. My kids good in taking me out a lot , I never realised how it had kept me away from miserable loneliness until lockdown . We travel a lot to beat loneliness . I have discovered people can’t solve your problems they are the least helpful not unkindly but they have a different perspective . Enjoy the time while you can .

I feel like this too. Feel like I have nobody to share stuff with and it's frightening.

Well done! You are doing brilliantly.
Everything is hard as a LP, I dropped out of OU, so I know what you are working through.
You will get to the other side of this though. And it will be worth it. You're laying the foundations for a really solid future for both of you.

Congratulations! That’s great.
Is there anyone you can video call and tell? Message friends, peers etc

Congratulations please celebrate with your son let him see that hard work is valued and rewarded. My daughter was 12 when I completed my PGCertVBM she was 10 when I started. She was the proudest person in the room when I graduated we celebrated every step. She gets her GCSE results soon and again we will celebrate.

How are things?