Why am i upset that he is moving on???

[jellyjelly]

I split with my sons father 17 months ago. It came as quite a shock to be honest. He came over last yesterday to pick up our son which he never comes over.

I could tell that he was looking at the things he planted at the things that i had done to the place because he had commented on his rosemary and his things he had planted.

Anyway why was i jealous when he said he was buying a new flat in the centre of town without his girlie but they are still going strong etc etc. ? I dont want to live in town or have a flat.

I thought i had pretty much dealt with most of the emotions.

do you normally drop son off?

it is a hard one, i do know how you feel, i thought i had delt with everything then he announced he was marrying the other women, i am better now the wedding has been and gone but the weeks before it i could think of nothing else....

i think you have to go through these things to properly deal with it and move on..

I still hate seeing my ex even after 2 years...

i am waiting for him now, to colect dd. to take out for the day with his wife

i dont want hinm back or anything he has but i would like back the life we had together before he mucked it all up. but it was his choice not mine....

stay strong, how often does he have your son?

every other week, he normally picks up son at nursery but he finished at a certain time and x couldnt get there in time so i picked him up and took him to mine,

Every other weekend but now he want ds for 3 night and drop him to nursery on the monday where i normally get him by 4.

ok so if you dont normally see him, during drop off and pick ups then it is bound to be hard at first.... my ex picked up dd from nursery for 2 years and i never saw him just the odd time, and it made it much easier

but now dd is at school he has to pick her up from me, which is slightly harder but i hope it will get easier....

I just dont know why it bothers me that he is buying a flat on his own its not even with the ow.

My ex left me for another woman - I dealt with that pretty well, and it was somehow easier believing that she'd enticed him away from me rather than thinking he'd ust gone off me! That relationship didn't last, nor the next or the next... then he met someone, fell in love and got married in May. I was quite surprised at how positive I felt about it - a more settled life for my dd, a happier future for the ex, some kind of closure for me.

Then they split up, and it's hit me really hard. I'm still trying to make sense of my feelings - I know I don't love him, but I don't hate him either. I am angry that having decided to end our marriage, he hasn't been able to move on to something better. I am angry that again, he's disrupted my daughter's life. And I'm angry that he's making me lie awake at night trying to figure this out!

I guess the reason for my strong reaction is twofold - firstly, I hurt for my daughter, and secondly, as much as I want to, I can't truly ever end the emotional involvement with the man I married and had a child with.