Taking son on holiday

[Nanny15]

im taking my son away for a few days, my ex is demanding to know where. It doesnt interfere with his contact at all, do i have to tell him??

Is he likely to turn up in the area you’re travelling to, OP? Would he decide he’s going to holiday in that area at the same time?

Knowing what hes like yes he could do. I just feel like he wants to know every detail about my life, and if he doesnt get the info he inundates me with emails 😔

In the interests of trying to co-parent co-operatively, I'd tell him the county you are going to.

I understand you want to be sure that he can't follow you/contact you, but on the other hand if there was a terror attack or a big motorway smash, it is not unreasonable for him to want to know his child is ok. It's also one less thing he could complain to a court about.

So text him, saying that you and DC are going to e.g. Yorkshire, and you'll text him if anything like that happens, so he knows DC is OK.

Treat him like a difficult customer, calm and super-reasonable all the way.

Remember you don't have to give him 100% correct details if you're worried about him turning up. You could appear cooperative and bend the truth a little .

Thanks for everyones advice, i spoke to my solicitor and i dont need to tell him where we are going. We dont co parent at all, i tell him important info that he needs to know but other than that i dont speak to him due to the way he is with me. As its not his time with ds he doesnt need to know what we are doing. The same as when he has him he doesnt have to tell me, when i have offered places for him to go he says "your not the boss of me i can do what i want with him". But then in the next breath asking me what food he eats???.hes been seeing him since last july and still asks now. Which i have told him at least 5 times. Hes like jekyll and hyde. So i distance myself away for my own sanity

I’m glad you’ve had clarification, OP. If you don’t feel strong enough to tell him to fuck off, you could always lie to him about where you’re going. If your child is old enough to tell him where you were, so what, you changed your mind at the last minute. Enjoy your holiday.