Non mol experience?

[waitingforthestan]

I've started a thread in legal but I was hoping someone could tell me their experience too.

Next week I have my non mol court phone call and I'm just wondering what actually happens. Did your ex submit a counter statement, did you have to answer question?

I've gone through over 6 months of police etc and I'm exhausted by it, so I'm trying to just prepare myself a little to how it's going to play out.

I haven't had contact with ex in 6 months, as he was on police bail, even though he's tried to contact me Indirectly and directly through email I'm actually really scared to hear his voice:

I know I'm extremely lucky I don't have to see him in person at court but he's so extremely manipulative and I'm so worried that after all this healing I'm going to end up feeling sorry for him.

Hey I went through a non mol about 14 years ago so things could be different now. When I went back to court where my ex came it got adjourned at least 3 times before it was actually seen in front of a judge (this ment going on a set date gearing urself up for it then being told oh it's been put back to ....) When it eventually got seen I had to go into the stand and swear on a Bible and then both my barrister and his barrister asked questions. Be prepared for his one to try make u look stupid and that u made it up but just stand Ur ground and keep to the truth. lucky enough I had an understanding judge and he gave me a 5 year order. Happy days I thought well then my ex decided to appeal the decision (manly cause in his job he would be police checked but he had already broken the order so had it on his record ) but once this was done it was well over a year from when everything stopped (he had another girlfriend by this stage so left me alone) so I took an underwriting. Oh before I forget don't take an underwriting at all (this means he signs a piece of paper to say he will leave u alone but the police have no power to arrest him if he does and you have to start the whole procedure again!) I did at the appeal as he had moved on by then but as I said he had another girl and it was over a year since the last incident happened. If I can help at all feel free to message me. Hope u get through this remember you are strong and u can do this xx

Thank You @pake it's so hard working out what will actually happen the internet doesn't give you real fact of the process.

And yes I won't accept one of them as the police have been No help up to this point.
They advise me to get a Non Mol as they really couldn't do anything if he breached bail.
Thanks again

No worries like I said if I can help in anyway I'm here 😀

@pake thank you again for the advice it help me feel more in control and calm.

It went so well, I got the order because he basically admitted to it because he still doesn't class what he did or does as abuse. And he also got told off for trying to ask me personal questions!

Excellent news @waitingforthestan!!!