Holiday

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My childs dad wants to take her on holiday this year but won't tell me where to or who with. He's told me the country but not location. Am I being unreasonable by saying I want to know an address and who with?

I took her on holiday and told him who we were with and the hotel details. I think it's an important thing to know where your child is?

I would want to know. And I wouldn't let my ex take the kids unless I did know. Not exactly hotel details etc necessarily, but location and with whom would be vital details to me

I’d want an address or hotel name at the very least. I’d want to check swimming pool security but that’s because my ex is a complete idiot.

Suppose there was a natural disaster in that country and you didn’t know where they were.

There’s no reason why he can’t provide a basic address. He’s being difficult for the sake of it so I’d hold out for more information.

I assume he is British/UK-based and unlikely to try to keep her abroad.

Thanks all,

He's telling me in being nasty and controlling. All I want is to know where she is going. I told him I'm happy for her to go (as I won't be able to take her away anywhere this year!) however, I just want an address and who is going.

My daughter asked me this morning if she is allowed to go. Apparently "Daddy told me to ask you if I can go on holiday with him and (new partner)." I was cross about this as she is only 4 and I don't feel that he was right to put her in this position.

As I have said repeatedly to him, she can go but only on the condition that I know where and who with.

Mintjulia - he is British, I don't think he would keep her abroad. He's just being difficult. I can't understand why as I don't have a problem with them going, I just want to know where she will be.

Legally, no he doesn't have to tell you. Morally obviously he should.
Your only option is refuse and face the fallout - or him going to court, but then would be expected most likely to share.
Or give permission and hope he sees reason.

If you did give permission, don't give it in writing until last minute if he says he'll say before he goes.

He has no legal obligation to tell you any details. He is seen as a capable parent and can look after dd in his time. It is of course polite for you to have the details.

I told ex when we go away and let him know we had landed safely. (We stay with family). So he knew where we were.

Although he never gave me his address when he moved out and I had no legal obligation to have the information. But the children pointed out his place every time we walked past it ( in town).