Son, 8, has came home today saying that he was told not to tell me that his other parent smashed his tv during a heated argument yesterday. Apparently he threw a toy at them first and then their response was to push his tv down from the shelf so it smashed on the floor but he was told not to say that they had done it.
This isnt the first time he's been told to keep something like this a secret....just a few weeks ago he came home saying that he had been hit but been told not to say anything and discussions were had about that although they deny that they did it. It became one word against the other because there was no mark to prove it. He ended up going back for contact as normal and things seemed to have calmed down.
What would your next steps be if this was your child coming home to tell you this? Or has anyone ever been in a similar situation?
Just to note I have spoken to my son about his behaviour when there as throwing toys is not something he would ever do when here or anywhere else. I spoke to him about his behaviour before finding out about the TV. Also, it wasnt as though he told me to take the blame away from himself, I only found out because I asked him how everything calmed down and he told me that they had came to apologise to him but he felt that it should be him apologising because he started it. He fully wanted to take the blame for everything that happened.