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9 replies

Singlemum1311 · 21/06/2020 22:56

Hi!
Just seeing if anyone else has been in the same situation and where I stand.
My ex and I separated in October, we have 2 children. We rented a house, he has just been removed from the tenancy.
He's currently living with his parents. Pre covid, there were a lot of problems regarding where he would have the children, and his behaviour was disruptive where he refused to have the children anywhere except from my house as he was still on the tenancy.
Now he is off the tenancy, however his parents are refusing to have the children stay in their house overnight on a weekend. I work shifts therefore the only option is for him to have them over night every other weekend.
I'm not sure where I stand, as obviously he has no legal rights to the property now, however if I say he is not able to have the children here then the children will miss out on their dad and it will impact my work. I can't ask my mum to help me any more than she already does, and I have been uncomfortable from the start with him having access to the property.
What do I do?! Any advice please

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Muppetry76 · 21/06/2020 23:30

He needs to get his own accommodation sorted where he can have the kids. You are under no obligation to allow him into your home now OP. Can he book into a travelodge EOW to see the kids?

Singlemum1311 · 22/06/2020 07:41

To be honest I haven't considered these options yet, but you're right. There are things he can organise! Thank you

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Russell19 · 22/06/2020 07:53

He needs his own place. Simple.

SoloMummy · 22/06/2020 08:03

There's 2 issues here. 1 if he actually wants overnight contact - and it doesn't sound like he does tbh and he's not obligated to do so (not talking morallly)
2 you reliant in it for work childcare. This rarely ever works out well... Can you adjust your working times instead of being reliant on him

passthemustard · 22/06/2020 08:28

Can't understand why the grandparents won't have their grandchildren overnight? Surely by letting their adult son move back in with them they know that his children will have to be there sometimes!

FatherB · 22/06/2020 17:39

If you require him to do overnights for your benefit where he explicitly can't then asking him to pay for a hotel is stupid. You are trying to force this to happen to benefit you and charging him for it.

If he wanted overnights he would have pushed for it and sorted out an alternative.

carly2803 · 22/06/2020 22:20

you need to sort out alternative shifts

he clearlydoes not want them overnight, else he would have moved mountains to have them

carly2803 · 22/06/2020 22:20

you need to sort out alternative shifts

he clearlydoes not want them overnight, else he would have moved mountains to have them

carly2803 · 22/06/2020 22:20

you need to sort out alternative shifts

he clearlydoes not want them overnight, else he would have moved mountains to have them

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