Threats from ex

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My controlling, uncooperative ex has just text a family member (I've blocked him) to say that if I don't let him FaceTime our DC whenever he wants then he will ring social services and report me for mentally abusing our child. Can he do this? I am sick to death of the threats if he doesn't get his own way!

You might have enough for legal aid then OP, but obviously you need to speak to a solicitor.

Yes it's good to try the parenting plan or whatever so he can't accuse you of being unreasonable in future.

@StrawberryJam200 @Embracelife Thank you both! I will do some research today and see what I can find. Very worried about doing anything but my DC is the happiest little thing ever, the last thing I want is social services turning up after he's reported me. This needs to be sorted!

Honestly if ss turn up you show them how you support dc to see his father and you mention the visits to gp for support for the coercive control/abuse you got from him.
You have nothing to hide
Ss report may go in your favour

Ss calling you is really nothing to worry about.

He has now sent my family member a message to pass on to me demanding that our DC FaceTime him (right before bed) as it's Fathers Day, reminding them that this is still me mentally abusing our DC. He has not made all contact all day, and DC doesn't even know what day it is.

Am I in the wrong? He has spent the whole day with his other DC (not mine) and has now decided that I am unreasonable for not getting our child to FaceTime. To be honest I didn't even think about it, and surely if Fathers Day was that important to him then he would have seen him?!

regarding your last post OP - its upto him to be arsed and make contact with you to request to see/facetime
not you chase him.

hes a bit ofa dick isnt he. If there is no court order, ignore.

regarding your last post OP - its upto him to be arsed and make contact with you to request to see/facetime
not you chase him.

hes a bit ofa dick isnt he. If there is no court order, ignore.

regarding your last post OP - its upto him to be arsed and make contact with you to request to see/facetime
not you chase him.

hes a bit ofa dick isnt he. If there is no court order, ignore.

@carly2803 Thank you - sometimes I question myself as to whether it is me who is the unreasonable one so it's good to hear other people's take on it

Your ex sounds like mine 😔 in the end we went to court i got legal aid as id been to the doctors with exactly the same as you and i got a letter off the doc stating it was due to mental abuse.
We have an order but there is a paragraph that says " any other contact can be made if both parties agree" well my ex thinks this means he can demand what he wants and get it!
I now have him blocked on everything except email. He stilll messages nearly everday with silly requests for example what will our ds eat from macdonalds! Hes 2 and i must have told the ex over 20 times what food our son likes. He has been seeing him properly for over a year now and still has no idea!
I would say to you to ignore anything unless an emergency and if possible get a parenting plan, you tell him what days works for you and keep to it if he doesnt turn up thats his choice. Also keep a diary of everything. It helps if you go to court.
Let him call ss all they will do is ring and have a word with you. Hope your ok

@Nanny15 Would you mind if I sent you a private message tomorrow?

No feel free to 😊

Hi op.

There needs to be structure about contact so you can both enjoy your time with your child with no pressure.

No harm in FaceTiming but not whenever he feels like it.

Have you suggested set days and times. Again this gives structure and routine.