Indirect contact order

[Ethansmum74]

Hello everyone,
Firstly I would likd to say Thankyou for allowing me to join. I would really appreciate any advice you may be able to offer in relation to this subject. I am wondering if I should contact the judge in regards to the indirect contact order as I don't receive any response or letters

You can not make him send them. So yabu re court.

Isn't that what the judge was asking my ex husband to do? Send letters, cards etc. That's my understanding of the order.

What's yabu re court??

Absent parent cannot be sanctioned for not upholding their end of the order. Resident parents however can :/

Nothing much you can do about it apart from keeping note of dates of any communication just in case its needed in future.

OP can you clarify who is supposed to be sending letters to who? Are you the non-resident parent? Who are you expecting a reply from? If you are able to explain why indirect contact has been ordered that would help get the right support on here x

I am the non resident parent,
Dad is resident parent, the d order was made in 2015 our youngest son lived with me after our separation. Dad was having contact and whilst doing do, 1 day he just never brought our son home to me, I received a call from social services saying he had made allegations about abuse, non of which were true, an investigation was done and there was no evidence or anything to support the allegations, he didn't stop there, he refused to bring our son bk to me and I went to a solicitor who then advised me to go to court. That's when it all started, more lies more allegations, he forced our 9 year old son to write to the judge stating he wanted no. Contact with me, his mum I have fought with everything I have, still nothing, it seems that if you lie, manipulate, use every dirty trick in the book you win over the courts,solicitors, I am disgusted and have no faith in the justice system, why do I have to treated this way, why does my son not have the opportunity to have his mum in his life, how is this able to happen.

Social services and cafcass told me my ex had played his trump card, little did I know that when we were to go to the hearing, he had already forced our son to write to the judge befure hand and even video a message via his mobile phone saying he wanted no contact with me. My solicitor did and said nothing, the judge ordered an indirect contact order and that our son ea to reside with dad. Needless to say I have no faith in the courts they are all corrupt in my opinion,

The indirect contact is for the child's benefit not yours ( I know that is frustrating) keep your side send cards, be fun and light, asking light questions similar to 'what is your favourite TV show?' Tell your son you love him and think of him often.
The child is not compelled to reply, but seeing my child get the indirect contact ( I stopped contact for safety reasons that have since be back up by SS removing his partners child into care) the light friendly interest approach is more likely to get a response than anything heavy. Make sure your love and everything that goes with it is obviously unconditional.