Seeing DC during the lockdown

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My ex-H is reluctant to have DD (10) to stay since lockdown and hence he hasn't seen her for 11 weeks in person. He is saying that he thinks the Covid infection rate is too high at the moment and would rather not take any additional risks. He and his partner have no underlying health issues. He regularly talks to DD on video chat.

I would really appreciate some time to myself to meet friends in the park etc. Should I be more forceful in making him do his bit or should I respect the fact he worried about the virus?

Disclaimer: He has form for not stepping up as a parent.

Not the point of the thread but can your dd be left home for an hour or two while you go out? Presumably she's off to secondary in September so might have a mobile that she could call you with in an emergency?

You know him so probably know if he's anxious or giving a convenient excuse. Mine are seeing their Dad but I know some who are not too.

Does sound like excuses, but you can’t make him have her at the same time. my ex hasn’t seen our kids for 3 years some men just don’t care I’m afraid.

Thanks for replying. Yes I do leave her sometimes so I can meet a friend for a quick walk or do the food shop. I suppose I just miss having a block of time to myself without clock-watching. I know I can't make him, and I know that people are in far worse positions than me (he pays maintenance).