Strange comment? What would you make of it.

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What would you think of your child's father telling you he was under no legal obligation and had no responsibility to pay any child support. ( because I contacted csa and he knows he's not on the birth certificate). Am I wrong to not even want to pursue csa after that comment and let him keep his money if he can feel like that towards an innocent baby?. Oh and he has had no contact with DS since he was 10 months btw ( his choice ).

He sounds like an absolute knobend OP! He helped create the child...he has an obligation to assist in the raising of said child!

Sorry, posted too soon!

My EXH pays CM for our 5 year old...I don't need it, but I take it from him! He knows I don't need it, and begrudges giving it to me each month....little does he know that I put it straight into a savings account for my DS, he can access it when he's older.

Deluded as well as being an arsehole. The law says he has to pay. He pays

I think it means your ex is a wankbadger.

As a pp said, even if you don't need it, claim it and put it in a savings account for your dc to use at a later date.

Oh and of course he has a responsibility to provide for his dc

That he's trying to wind you up and knows exactly how too

He's just trying to put you off applying, however men determined not to pay find ways to get out of it sadly

You should still claim. My ex has changed jobs and moved around so he does not have to pay for my son but it mounts up and they catch him about twice a year taking 40% of his wages I think.

@WhatInFreshHell. It's nice to hear someone does the same as me.
I don't need my sons fathers money because I can support him but on the odd occasion the CMS manage to get some we just waste it on toys, switch games and Percy pigs. I leave some in my sons account too as it goes in his account . I get pleasure wasting the money that I know he needs.

@Aeris1 I wouldn't say toys for your son are a waste. Sounds nice

Then he can do an DNA test to confirm he isn’t legally obligated to pay for the child then can’t he. Twat. Utter twat. Get the claim in and spend/save it as you see fit.

@Micem0use. Thank you.
It is nice to just let him have what he likes with it. I am lucky to have a Smyths and M and S not too far away. His two favourite places to shop :)

Def claim. Thinks he doesn't have to pay if he isn't on birth cert. well he's wrong, and make him be wrong.

Thanks everyone. I think he is definitely thinking if he's not on the birth certificate he doesn't have to pay. I will still claim. My son deserves it.

He’s an idiot. Just a quick look at the cms website would set him straight. Of course he needs to pay for his child. It doesn’t matter if he’s not on the birth certificate. Get that claim in now OP and ignore his nonsense.

Like many, he's just assuming he's in the "clear" due to not being on bc.
Is he self employed?
Did he say he wanted you to abort the pregnancy?

Birth certificate is completely irrelevant regards payment (it just means he doesn’t have parental responsibility). If you put in a request for child support he will have the opportunity to say yes or no to whether he is the child’s father. If he says yes, then he pays. If he says no, he will have to do DNA test and pay if it confirms he is the father (and pay for the test as well).

That's what I thought. Just couldn't believe he actually said that. Amazing how some parents can have such selfishness in them.

It’s disgusting that your ex has never paid at all. I’m shocked to read so many mums not putting in a claim for CM I wouldn’t hesitate wether I needed the money or not it’s not the point it’s the principle of the matter. Why should the other parent get out of Finicial responsibility as well as the emotional side of parenting too. Don’t let him put you off call them right away OP.

I did put the claim in but the stress of dealing with them just wasn't worth it. Never got more than a few quid anyway then they suddenly deleted my 5k arrears with a not saying no appeal possible. I closed it in the end for the sake of my mental health