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Ex husband not sticking to lockdown when son is with him

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3sthenew2 · 24/05/2020 10:18

I recently had a baby (a week ago) and have been self isolating with my 5 year old, teenager & partner since a week before lockdown. My ex husband has been quite distant from our kids since our divorce & doesn’t really push seeing the kids but I thought he might want to see them now I’m not pregnant & not considered high risk. I try not to dictate how he spends his time with them but on this occasion I asked him not to visit his parents with the 6 year old as per rules of not mixing households as I already felt he was vulnerable going to his (he’s a delivery driver & worked throughout lockdown.) When my son came home he said he’d been a grannies all afternoon while his dad went to the supermarket. He could’ve gone after he dropped him back to me as he’d only had our son 24 hours.
Do I stop my son going back until lockdown eases as I clearly can’t trust him to keep him safe? I’m cross he’s & his family have not been extra vigilant & put my son’s safety first & that they showed no consideration for his new baby sister (I can understand them not caring if I catch Covid but not the new baby or his teenage son who stayed home with me.) I feel like all my care & diligence in keeping my family safe has been undone. My parents, haven’t even been within 2 meters of us. Let alone been in their house.

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StrawberryJam200 · 25/05/2020 11:22

He hasn't seen his 5 year old since the beginning of lockdown, then when he has him for 24 hrs he spends all afternoon away from him shopping? To be honest I'd be more worried about that aspect than the mixing of households (which isn't great of course).

Elieza · 25/05/2020 11:41

Sounds like he’s not into his kids if he dumps the in the grandparents at the first opportunity. His excuse will no doubt be that he has to nip to the shop for something she needed and there were queues so it took longer than planned.
But really. Not impressed with him can already see why he’s your ex.

If lockdown rules change fine. If not I can understand why you’d feel it would be better to keep dc with you as he’s an arse. Does he know what CV is? Is he a disbeliever or just thoughtless? He should have a good awareness as a delivery driver. Sigh.

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