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Dad names pet cat after his child

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Sams1505 · 22/05/2020 07:55

My daughter is 3 and her nickname is belle. This is short of her full name.. She's always been babybelle to her family. My dad has always called her belle-boo and since 1 she calls my dad belle boo. Its a thing between them that started with my daughters dad and my dad before he walked away from our child. So my daughters dad and his current partner have a kitten and called it bella. The partner has hash tagged this cats name as #babybella #bella-boo. The partner has been involved in my daughters life.. Am I being over sensitive?? is the name to close for a pet and your child.the Ex has one child with the current partner. Would they have named the kitten so close to the name of thier own child they share.

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LuluBellaBlue · 22/05/2020 07:59

Both my dogs are named after 2 different nicknames I go by, not because I’m totally egotistical but my son chose the names and they suited the dogs and it’s just stuck.
It does get confusing sometimes!
I wouldn’t overthink it.
It’s a kitten, they love the name clearly, just let it go.
Oh and changing Bella to Bella-Boo is also very common.

SomeoneInTheLaaaaaounge · 22/05/2020 08:01

You are being over sensitive

ElizabethMainwaring · 22/05/2020 08:02

I wouldn't be best pleased.
It seems a rather stupid thing to do.

ChewChewIsMySpiritAnimal · 22/05/2020 08:06

Stupid and thoughtless. Are they trying to replace the child with the cat?

timetest · 22/05/2020 09:37

You’re massively over thinking this.

Windyatthebeach · 22/05/2020 09:50

My dd would be chuffed!! We recently got a dpuppy and named her a very similar name to dd's BFF!! BFF is chuffed to bits!!
Dkittens are gorgeous - it's not an insult imo!!

Lizadork · 23/05/2020 19:50

My child names everything after herself, baby number 2 is currently on the way and she has already named her "Tilly-two". Or she rhymes them so Tilly, Milly, Billy, Lily. As long as child has no issue then you are over thinking this. Let child lead and obviously have a discussion if you see it causing a problem.

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Sams1505 · 23/05/2020 20:26

Lizadork. There is no contact wirb our child for our child to be OK wirb it he was only in her life 9 months. He hasn't seen her for over 2 years.. I get it could be nice if she was involved in some way but she isn't and seems the cat has replaced my daughter.. Perhaps lock down has got me over thinking it but she's called this cat baby belll in her post to announce the cats arrival and this is obviously my daughters name and I find it very strange.

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Lizadork · 26/05/2020 20:30

I obviously missed that there is no contact, so do ignore my comment. It would be hurtful to think someone is replacing a child with a pet.

P0lka · 26/05/2020 20:37

If you haven't had contact for 2+ years, why are you monitoring his social media? Yes I can see why it might have unintentionally hurt you, but you had no need to find out if he's no longer in your life

kahronah · 26/05/2020 20:39

That is strange. Guess your dd needs a cat now with their daughters name.

summerset · 27/05/2020 17:11

I don't know how people are saying you are over thinking this. I agree it's wrong (and weird).

doughnutmuffin · 27/05/2020 17:20

Yes definitely weird when they could pick ANY other name

TinySleepThief · 27/05/2020 17:29

That's so fucking bizzare. I can see why you think it's weird especially since he doesn't see her.

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Sams1505 · 28/05/2020 17:51

Hi I don't normally see anything but this was a public post which I was shown by a friend who also thought the name was to close and it seemed vengful. I'm confused as to why it was made public when nothing else is public. But I had to see the cats name I think

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Annaminna · 31/05/2020 21:36

You are looking for a reason to start an argument with your ex.

blisstwins · 20/06/2020 03:53

They are weirdos and you are right to feel chuffed. Anyone who could go 2 years without seeing a child is not wired like you. It is just more evidence there is something wrong with her father.

Thepigeonsarecoming · 20/06/2020 03:59

Why are you monitoring your ex’s partners social media if they have no contact with your daughter now? To be honest you sound like you need to move on

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Sams1505 · 20/06/2020 08:09

Hi there, my ex isn't on Facebook his partner is. As I've stated previously I never check Facebook myself a friend on her friend list list lost all respect for the partner over the name an since then has been trying to show me anything that could cause this girl trouble.. I think it's a grey area. Some poeple have seen it as disrespectful to a child some haven't, but she's lost a few friends over it I think or seems to have people are funny tho and play both sides I kmow this ..

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namechangeindiana · 20/06/2020 08:13

I think your only option really is to get over this. I mean, what are you going to do? Contact the guy who hasn't been in your child's life for two years and demand he renames his cat?

Your friend was silly to even show it to you knowing there's nothing you can do about it. I suggest you tell your friend that you aren't interested in your child's deadbeat dad's girlfriend's social media...

SiaPR · 20/06/2020 08:17

We had guinea pigs and fish that had the same name as my daughter (she named them! Massive fucking ego that one 😂) I actually think your daughter will be pleased

SiaPR · 20/06/2020 08:18

Oh I misread. He is not in contact? Fucking freak then

GroovyGrove · 20/06/2020 16:08

If you check his social media or not that has nothing to do with this. Of course people check up to see what a parent who abandoned their child is doing occasionally.

I would think it was beyond stupid and yes I would be a little mad but then I would laugh because they now have a constant reminder of the child they don't see - so jokes on them.

SunbathingDragon · 20/06/2020 16:14

If he hasn’t seen her in that length of time, be probably just wasn’t thinking and has fond memories of the name Bella. I’m guessing he isn’t likely to see her anytime soon. I know people who have named their child after their pet and vice versa.

Light11 · 21/06/2020 22:09

I’d consider fostering a dog and naming it after the dad, maybe that sends a message.

-on a serious note, it strikes me as odd if you are in ok terms maybe I would gently ask why?

Sounds like the sort of thing my x would do to wind me up

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