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dont date this nasty guy, another pirate rant!!!

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pirategirl · 19/09/2007 16:47

HIya, as before, last thread, he couldnt make our date at weekend.

Me--pissed off. Told him so by text when he ignored me.

BUT, he rang, and we spoke on sunday, and got things straight. Spoke monday, he siad he'd taken the day off work today, and could he drve down to see me, we agreed to go for lunch.

Lots of texts yersterday, very nice, sopme very sweet. Online yesterday, both went to bed early, said see you tomorrw.

12 came, and went, 1 came, and went. no show.

I rang a friend and she and i spoke about it, so i just texted where was he??

no reply!!!

He knew today was a bit of a crap day for me, was really nice about it, (it would have been my 10 wedding anniversary)and said hey lets just enjoy oursleves, and i said, yes looking forward to meeting you.

I waited till 2, went online, and loa nd behold, he was actually online on the site we met on.

I feel like a bloody fool, but also angry, why someone would do this i do not know.

What WERE the last 2 weeks all about,and the last 2 days , I thought were cool.

pissed off pirate.

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Tamz77 · 19/09/2007 19:05

You've deleted him from your mobile etc now you have to delete him from your brain!

I'm ploughing through a load of internet 'potentials' and while some are sweet and ordinary, others are effing nutjobs. Met a guy yesterday without seeing his pic (I know, I know) and didn't fancy him, he asked 'what I thought' and I said (kindly) that I didn't think he was really my type...he started getting twitchy, his hands were shaking, looked really angry, couldn't understand why because he had a shaved head and I'd said I liked short/shaved hair...as if I fall in love with every bald guy I see...was a bit scared and felt physically repulsed all night.

Met another guy who was/is gorgeous and was/is funny as heck, but NEVER phones, disappears for days at a time, cancels on me all the time (by text and usu. minutes before we are due to meet)...Really fancy him so still see him sometimes but feel sad about the way he is with me/women.

Met another guy who proposed to me within 24 hrs! Scary in a different way!

Be very choosy, look out for yourself is my advice. Have fun but don't indulge wankers and keep a healthy level of cynicism going.

Oh and never do things completely blind.

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pirategirl · 19/09/2007 19:28

thanks!!!

I am a cynic, oh yes. I just believed him thats all, wanted too, human nature.

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singledadofthree · 19/09/2007 20:49

hi piratey

sorry to hear your date turned out to be a time waster. is easy enough to be taken in and fall for someone, specially when you dont know what theyve been like in the past. dont worry tho - theres plenty more nutters out here... i mean there

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pirategirl · 19/09/2007 21:03

thnkas single,

i cant remember the last time i felt so lonely as this evening.

been stood up, and duped, and on my ( would have been)1oth anniversary.

DD is away, and i am just totally fucked off, bored, and really down.

x

how can people be so nasty

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Tinkerbel5 · 19/09/2007 21:03

unfortunately a large amount of single guys are players and this guy is a prime example, ignore him from now on is probably the best course of action

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pirategirl · 19/09/2007 21:06

tinker, do u think he just got akick out of me wanting to meet him.?

AmI being incredibly naive? We spoke alot online, and he rang me twice sunday, saying please feel free to ring me too?

He was sweet and normal.

is that what players do?? he never insinuated anything crude, like some blokes, we shared lots of music on msn sharing files.

it just was normal as far as i can see.

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yossa · 19/09/2007 21:09

pg...am in suimilar situation...have been speaking to a guy from a dating site for a few weeks now....he seems so genuine and everything he tells me seems to add up....but i am sooo cynical...not sure whether to allow myselft to open up and risk being hurt....or just bin it and never know.
i wish i could be one of these people who can take it or leave it...but i think i just become obsessed too easily!

singledadofthree · 19/09/2007 21:53

dont think its you at all, or any of us really, but it is so easy to get carried away and get close to someoene now - virtually at least, thanks to the internet, texts and calls. then real life kicks in quickly followed by second thoughts.

am sorry tho, is crap timing for you piratey, hope the evening improves.

Tinkerbel5 · 20/09/2007 09:46

pirate he gave you mixed signals so im not suprised on how confused you are, he gained your confidence to meet up and whilst you were sitting waiting for him to show he was at home online fishing, he is a player who is always on the look out for something better, I personally think you are too good for him and I looked at his pic and he does look like a lad, you dont need someone like him in your life. Dont contact him, if he does email you delete it until he keeps emailing asking you whats wrong then you can let rip

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pirategirl · 20/09/2007 10:25

yeah,i know, just thought he was lad with a heart!!
I always go for indie muso types, wh end up wrapped up in thier angst!!

I think the fact his laast gf had 2 children was a plus for me, as he the fact I am a mum was no prob, cos there are losts of men who just arent interested.

So he was cool, and listened to me talk about dd's antics, and of course, it was a plus.

hey ho. I am not actually too hurt, just angry, but thankfuly not at myself, i refuse to blame myslef. I think one has to give people trust but some people are always going to be slimeballs and take advantage.

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kitsandbits · 20/09/2007 10:30

Why not just meet someone in real life?? All these 'internet men' seem to be nob heads and out for one thing.

He especially sounds like a nob PG - better off without - chin up eh?

lou33 · 20/09/2007 10:32

pg , just bear in mind that a lot of guys will say anything at the time, things liek kids and distance are never a problem

it doesnt mean they believe that, they say it hoping to get the right reaction

and a shag

not all but lots do

lou33 · 20/09/2007 10:33

meeting someone irl isnt that easy if you have kids and cant get out to socialise without army maoeuvres

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pirategirl · 20/09/2007 11:20

yes lou, thats the reason i went on there. i live in a tiny town miles form anywhere easily accesible.

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kitsandbits · 20/09/2007 11:24

But people managed it before the internet. People in small villages didn't die old and lonely because they didn't have a computer to talk to 'hotguyessex_443'

seriously though just becareful - as well as there being 'meanies' out there - theres also plenty of nutters Like the shaky hand guy tamz met - that mustve been sooo scary!!

Id forget about this one though pirtae someone will come along im sure, some one that treats youlike you should be treated.

And the fact he knew it was your anniversary too

its just cruel

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pirategirl · 20/09/2007 11:33

yes kits, thanks, i am forgetting no prob. I just feel angry. I know where he lives, and wehre he works, and when i am feeling really pissed, i envisage pouring a tin of gloss paint over his car lol.

I will still be looking out in real life of course. But i know to many women her in ther late 40's 50' who are alone, as it really is remore place.

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lou33 · 20/09/2007 12:19

i'm ina small village too pg, 40 yrs old, 4 kids, i know the problems you are facing

000Laura000 · 20/09/2007 12:36

anyone tried?

parentsalready.com

You can scroll through the blokes. (Or women).

Personally I can't imagine anything worse than having a sexual relationship with a man but perhaps I'll think differently at some point!

I'd rather be as incredibly lonely as I am.... than have to put up with a man's funny ways!!!

Laura

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pirategirl · 20/09/2007 13:01

yeah speccy, thats the fella.

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Speccy · 20/09/2007 13:24

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pirategirl · 20/09/2007 14:27

I am not looking hard tho, i was having a laff, until he wanted to meet, and my main thing is how ordianry it all was then it turned nasty, with him just not turningup.

just odd.

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Speccy · 20/09/2007 14:44

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madamez · 20/09/2007 14:51

To be fair, some internet 'daters' are people with some or other kind of social phobia, who bottle out of meeting at the last minute even if they had genuine intentions. But that isn';t your problem, PG, so you're best off forgetting about this one.
Now, apologies if you've had this advice on other threads, but what about joining up with some sort of social group that's about doing something (other than dating). THe problem with internet dating (as it has always been with lonelyhearts and dating agencies etc) is that it doesn't take too long before you start getting obsessed with dating as an end in itself, start smelling of desperation and end up attracting either other desperate losers - or predators. If you are isolated and lonely it's a lot better to build a social life around something other than the search for partners IYSWIM

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pirategirl · 20/09/2007 18:45

interesting it is reading thru.

I guess the greatest thing is, I am not well equipped for being let down. I AM too fragile, yet nothing ventured etc...

Lucky escape, I guess so. I just HATE bad manners.

Madamez, your ideas r spot on, yet this town really is out in the stix and full of retirement people!!! Its a beautiful place to live, but truly it is very very quiet.

Have decided to travel the one hour to my nearest big supermarket 2morro (gives u an idea)and stock up on treats to take to Disney with us. No more men.!!

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