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EarleBoneheadedRowney · 12/05/2020 15:40

Hello all. I’ve gone bonkers and I need some help. I know this is “Mumsnet”, but there may well be other Dads here or even people who can share some advice.

Some time ago, my partner and I separated and we went our separate ways.

When she was preparing to leave, I were staying somewhere else in the meanwhile. We have two young children and she said she’d let us know where they’ll be. She soon stopped responding to my texts, so I didn’t quite know what was going on or when I could see my children. The next thing I knew she changed her phone number and I can’t get hold of her at all. I tried to contact some of her family members, to no avail.

Our relationship was always a bit up and down, there was never any domestic violence, so there’s no reason to keep me away from my children at all. Whilst together we still enjoyed days out and a few holidays together even through our difficult time, trying to make things nice for the kids, but in the long run it just wasn’t going to work out. Conversations for years had always revolved around her planning to leave me (I’d even overheard her talking to a friend in the kitchen about doing so), so it just came as no surprise, just this time when she announced it, I just accepted it, rather than try to keep us all together, as I just couldn’t do it again.

Apart from full blown legal action, I don’t quite know what to do or if there even is any other option. I’ve not seen my children in over a year and I’m not coping with that very well. My kids should have a father in their life. I just really miss my kids so much.

What do I do?

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Malone98 · 12/05/2020 15:54

To be honest, if you can't get hold of her or she isn't responding to you, you probably don't have much choice other than legal action. However, a Lawyer may be willing just to write an initial letter, which will often scare the other parent into contact, as they don't want to go to court. Xx

daddyby · 12/05/2020 20:01

@Malone98 I agree with you. You will probably have to take legal action op but I'm not sure they the lawyer would be able to find out where they are or are Living?

EarleBoneheadedRowney · 12/05/2020 22:26

A solicitor can find out via an application through the magistrates, as the children would legally have to be registered somewhere for school etc. That way she'd receive a court order.

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EarleBoneheadedRowney · 16/05/2020 19:45

I feel like such a failure. Today was a bit of a dark day for me with thoughts of missing my kids.

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WitchWindows · 17/05/2020 08:32

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