Should I let my child see her dad ?

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Dd4 has been seeing her dad once a week in my garden for half hour at a reasonable distance.
He not wants her over his house for a few hours to eventually build up overnight. He lives with his mother who works part time with disabled adults in a care home. He is also giving his mate lifts everyday to his job as he doesn't drive for petrol money.

He n his mother has had no symptoms. Neither have me n dd
It's just us in the house.
I have considered her visiting the house but unsure of his mother and he has only been giving his mate lifts this week.
The Lifts with mate would have to stop immediately. I'm unsure any advise please

Personally I wouldn't he is mixing, you don't know who his mate is mixing with and then getting in his car

I know thanks and this is my concern, he is an idiot sometimes in my eyes

Yes. He is her Dad and millions of kids are visiting two homes where people are having to mix with others for their work.

This isn’t ending anytime soon, and restricting his access to his child will reflect badly on you of it ever ends up in court

Of course you should!

But he is mixing with his friend and his mother is a key worker so the risk is higher ! X

But there always is and always will be a risk, same as everytime you go to get shopping etc.

You can’t just stop him seeing his own child for the foreseeable future!

But being a key worker or in the case living with a key worker doesn't equate to you losing rights to see your child for an extended period. I am a key worker and still see (living with) my children. I couldn't be away from them for months at a time like this. I take all the safety precautions I can....shower before touching anything. Frequent hand washing. Washing work stuff straight away at a high temp. But if my DC other parent tried to keep me away because I am a key worker it would be very very difficult and not something I would be prepared to do.

The problem is it's a still a risk.
And on the other flip side we don't know how long this is going to go on for

We don’t know how long this is going to go on for. Exactly! Let’s say we are like this until January at the earliest. Do you think it’s honestly ok that your child and her father don’t have proper time together for so long? This may actually be the new way of life for years to come, we may just have to find ways to cope and live alongside the risk of covid, and we can’t expect children of separated parents to go without contact?
You could request that he stop giving his mate a lift, in order for contact to take place. Unless his mate is in the same household (which he isn’t). The rest of the situation is pretty usual, and key workers aren’t supposed to be considered banned from seeing their own kiddos. However if your ex was frontline nhs (e.g a doctor in a covid ward) I would understand the apprehension and I would expect your ex to insist on suspending contact in that scenario anyway!

However if your ex was frontline nhs (e.g a doctor in a covid ward) I would understand the apprehension and I would expect your ex to insist on suspending contact in that scenario anyway!

I wouldn’t. My sister works on a Covid ward. If she wasn’t able to see her kids for months it would push her over the edge.

Positive contact with the father should be encouraged and there is no reason to stop or limit it as a result of Covid (unless he became symptomatic, in which case a 14 day break.

What was contact before lockdown?

Tricky this one I think unfortunately people who work in care are really exposed, I would ask the fella to be patient and keep it as it is till at least the care home outbreaks are under control (they are not at the moment)

Tricky this one I think unfortunately people who work in care are really exposed, I would ask the fella to be patient and keep it as it is till at least the care home outbreaks are under control

If genders were reversed would you expect the mum not to see her kid for months on end