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Fluffballs · 08/05/2020 13:46

Hi can I have some opinions on dd's contact with her dad please.
We split when she was 8 weeks old, and have had a very relaxed contact arrangement since. Mainly because she was slow to have a reliable routine and breastfed often.

Now dd's over a year we're trying to agree on a more stable arrangement. He wants her in the day at weekends and to see her on a Tuesday and Thursday. This is fine with me BUT.. on week days he works until past her bedtime so it would have to be morning contact, he proposes 8-9:30. He lives a 30 minute walk away, so by the time they got home and back it wouldn't be worth the journey. The librarys and soft play don't open until 9:30, and the park is only a good idea in nice weather.

So he wants to have contact at my house. I don't really like this option but also can't think of an alternative? I won't say no, if the shoe was on the other foot, I'd like to see her more often than just the weekend too. But if there's something I'm missing please point it out to me!

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cakeandchampagne · 08/05/2020 13:50

Even if you are on good terms with him right now, his time with her shouldn’t be spent in your home.

virgomom · 10/05/2020 09:55

It's totally up to you to decide. Maybe if you allowed him a visit in your house to see how you felt and make it clear it is to test the water. If you still have reservations then don't. Is there a reason he can't have her overnight? Then he could maybe enjoy her for longer day on a Saturday and keep her until Sunday then not needing the contact in the week so much?

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