I actually

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Want to cry so much....
I am taking my son to his dad's next week even if I have to drive over 100 miles. For my son to get the best of me I need a break. He's 4.
I can't cope with the moaning.. Wanting me to buy every toy under the sun..... The demanding....... The crying.
I feel so awful writing this post because the love I have for him is everything he is my heartbeat.
Any other parents out there???

Hi. I can assure you that every single parent has felt like taking a proper time away from the kids just to... breathe even.

I have raising DS single handedly since he was 4 and I can assure you that they can understand a lot of stuff at that age. They ask for a lot of stuff but can also understand the reasons why you are not able to get it. Talk to your child in an age appropriate way but explain why you can get everything he wants or why he needs to help you by giving up space from time to time. You and your kid need to be a team, he will be a better team player if he knows where are you coming from.

In the meantime remember, nobody is going to die if you lock yourself outside of the house to get yourself together for 10 minutes.

Thank you that's really comforting. Now that I have read that we are potentially heading for another three wk lockdown I wonder whether taking him to see his dad is a good idea. Maybe he should stay with me and we can come to some sort of understanding albeit hard. Hope you are OK

He has a father who should be part of his life and this will be good for them both. Let him take the burden of parenting for a while. Rest. You're only human OP and we all need a break.

The key thing if you send him away to his dad and things change with the lockdown, can your kid come back or would he need to stay there until the lockdown is relaxed? Is your kid going to be ok with his dad for that time?

You obviously need a rest but if dad is not as patient or have thought about becoming the resident parent, you may as well think everything thoroughly if you have no residence order.

Well me and his dad actually get on very well. He would usually see him every two or three weeks. He lives over 100miles away. The last time he saw him was beginning of March and now my son keeps asking when is he gonna next see him. Luckily I drive so can take him there and then collect him

Thank you both posts. I really am hoping I can take him

I hear you and hope you are OK? I'm not a single mum but for the first 8 years of having dc I might as well have been. Ex sees his dc now more than he ever did when we all lived together. There is a massive stigma around saying my god I'm struggling to cope with my kids and its easier to gloss over how we really feel most of the time. My youngest is ASC and I am peddling constantly to manage her behaviour.
Your just a normal mum/human being that's doing the best you can under the circumstances and I bet your doing better than you think. Despite the moaning and usual small child dramas the love never stops. Can you put off travelling to his dad's until you know what the next three weeks will look like?

LP thank you for your message. I am actually considering it. It's just a shame for my LO because he so desperately wants to c him. I might even think about leaving it until beginning of June then he can spend a good week with him

Probably waiting to see what Boris day for Monday will help you with your decision. If you trust your ex and you think your kid will be ok, I don’t see why he cannot go and see his dad for a week once the very anticipated announcement of Sunday takes place.

That sounds like a good plan if you're both happy with that. Definitely worth explaining what's going on to your dc he might surprise you. I'm the first to admit that I'm guilty of underestimating how much little ones grasp. I sometimes think I learn an embarrassing amount from my dc🤫

Thank you all posts. Yes I think the nation will be all tuning in on Sunday to see what he says fingers crossed. 🤞🏾

Op . Do remember these are not normal times , you can’t take him to the park, do the soft play run around and drink a cuppa , adult contact has dramatically reduced.

Be kind to yourself.

Go for it, if my kids had a father I could drop them to then I would (he’s absent) I have 4 ages 9 down to 3. This is relentless. Do what you have to do

Take him. You are allowed to travel for children to see their nrp. Have a break for a few days. He will enjoy his time with his dad and you will be rested when he returns. It is relentless small children are exhausting.

I'm lost without my two at home. But it is better for all of us.

Having spoke to his dad he says to wait and see what BOJO says Sunday . That sounds a bit positive in that he wants to see him. Thanks for the responses makes me feel like am not alone

I actually do want to cry. Boris speech has left me as I am sure most people very flat. I have no idea what he was on about except that family can't see each other. My son keeps wanting to see his dad and I've just given up. I don't know what to do. What did everyone else think of the speech?

I thought dc could always go between the 2 houses anyway?

Yes they can and always have been allowed since the start of lockdown

Lucky you can get a break from him, I have no respite from my dd whatsoever I adore her but desperately need a bit of space to myself !

That's where I am so confused. I'm going to see what his dad says. LP sorry to hear that about I hope you are trying to get time for yourself

Not going now maybe 29 may