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Dds birthday and ex

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PumpkinP · 02/05/2020 22:00

My ex doesn’t see the children we share, he hasn’t done so in almost 3 years (unless you count two times that he has seen them in 3 years) he messaged me a few times recently but I ignored the messages because after the last time we spoke he was really horrible to me and said he would never be a dad or see them.

I decided to block him and move on with our lives. like I said he’s messaged a few times since then (been about a year) on my birthday/Xmas / New Years, anyway he messaged me recently and I responded, probably only because of lock down tbh. anyway he told me he wants to see them again, didn’t mean what he said etc. I decided to speak to him and think about it (he wants to see them after lock down) I’ve been speaking to him for a few weeks, anyway today is dds birthday and he hasn’t acknowledged it at all, I don’t know if I’m just being silly but I think it’s quite bad as surely he should be trying to prove himself? Honestly I don’t even think he knows it’s her birthday and it’s reminded me why I blocked him. Am I being silly?

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lovellost · 02/05/2020 22:55

No you are not . It must be very hurtful. In my case my ex has never acknowledged our ds birthday in 8 years. It is very hurtful to me when I know he makes a big fuss of his dss birthday even though his dss has his own dad involved in his life. I feel like I couldn't have made a worse choice for my ds .
Happy birthday to your dd 🎂🎊🥳. Hope she had a great day . Your ex has no excuse given the chance you have given him after he was awful to you. I can only sympathize with you but know that you are not wrong for being hurt he ignored/forgot his dd birthday

PumpkinP · 02/05/2020 23:08

Thanks for the birthday wishes. Dd had a great day she’s only just turned 3 so I just can’t believe he wouldn’t even acknowledge her birthday, I’ve got a pic up on WhatsApp so he can clearly see it is her birthday but nothing. (Not that I put it up for him) but it’s hard to know if I was just being silly as he always twists things on me and makes it seem like it was me that was wrong. The last time when I blocked him was because of him saying he didn’t want to see them again, he takes no responsibility for them and never will. When I spoke to him again he had rewrote the whole thing and said I just randomly blocked him for no reason Confused

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