I separated from my ex 18 months ago after 30y together and cut off my communication 1y ago as its so toxic. He's an addict and very abusive. Our 9y old has a mobile phone he gave her which I have been monitoring as at times he sends inappropriate messages about me and my family. She will go 4weeks at a time not looking at the phone as she's really not attached to him or interested in his narcissistic behaviour. 6 weeks ago he sent 31 messages over night which were discusting ! I don't want to keep reading his vile messages and certainly don't want my daughter to see them. I've switched the phone off and decided enough is enough.
My concern now is how do I explain to her appropriately that I don't want him communicating with her ??
I don't want her to feel that I'm being unreasonable or that he's totally abandoned her...... she has been through so much already.