A bit of back story, I have recently split with the father of my 2 DC (around 2 months ago). He text me one night after he left whilst I was in the bath to tell me he has never loved me and thinks he would be happier on his own. I later found out that he was with someone else and had been seeing her whilst we was together. I reckon they was having an emotional affair for at least 6 months. They have just gone Facebook official and put the post on public so it could be seen (not sure why). I am utterly devastated and don’t know how to cope with my feelings.
However, I have put my feelings on the back burner as my children are not coping great. Especially my DD (3). I believe she now suffers from separation anxiety and it is breaking my heart even more. She is constantly attached to me. She cries if I walk away and always tells me she doesn’t ever want to be alone. She was such an independent happy child before all of this. She now tells me almost every day that she doesn’t want to go to her dads. How he never cuddles or pays attention to her. She even said he told her he doesn’t like girls. I know she’s only 3 and I should take what she says with a pinch of salt. But she’s never been a liar, she’s very grown up and knows not to lie about these things. She gets overly emotional when he collects them, to the point I now have to put her in the car.
What should I do? I’ve tried to speak to him about it and he says I’m making it up to be spiteful. He doesn’t seem to care and she even told him she doesn’t want to go, to which he replied you don’t have a choice, you will come and you’ll enjoy it.
I don’t know what I’m expecting from this post. I think I just need reassurance that everything will work out fine. I just want to see my children happy, regardless of myself. I just can’t see a way around this.