My DS is 3 and primarily lives with me. My husband left me in jan so we live with my parents. I should say I'm 37 weeks pregnant. My dad has a heart condition, as does my mum who has also recovered breast cancer recently and has scar tissue on her lungs due to a blood clot. We are all in the vulnerable category and have been taking the lockdown measures very seriously. I'm obviously due to give birth to a baby who will hopefully be full of good health, but equally we don't know this at this stage. This is such a critical time.
My ex works in a children's home and lives with his parents. His dad also works in a children's home. Both still working so clearly having regular contact with a huge mixture of people outside of their household.
At the start of lockdown we agreed my son would stay with me due to ex and his dad working and the potential risk. Ex rang up 3 or 4 times to FaceTime which stopped about a week and a half later. We then decided to meet up for social distancing walks approx 2 times a week as ex was missing him. At the start of lockdown my son was really interested in the walks, but now, probably like most other 3 year olds doesn't want to go for his daily walks and is really disinterested. Last week we met up for 2 walks and ds was playing up. Ex has taken it personally and now demanding we return to normal childcare routine because he's concerned about ds behaviour on the walk. Ds is honestly the happiest and most settled I've ever known him and I have done nothing but reassure ex of this. Trust me, this is much harder for me being so heavily pregnant then it can possibly be for anyone else in our situation. But I will push myself to every limit possible to keep my son safe. Ex doesn't ring, FaceTime, text, drop by the window, send pictures or crafts... or anything yet still expects a relationship back from our son.
I can't sleep with worry and just wanted some advice. The gouverment advice clearly states that normal childcare routine can be maintained, however, the advise around when the child lives with vulnerable people isn't clear. I'm so worried that after how unwell my mum gets and with her age she should would die if she got the virus and also what implications it would have with the newborn. Ex told me 2 days ago he is only concerned about his nephew who has asthma contracting the virus and nobody else. I don't believe he takes lockdown seriously, he always seems to be at the supermarket and even let someone cut his hair "at work" the other day!
Please don't respond with mean comments. I'm a genially worried parent here and I've been through so much stress from this man throughout my pregnancy. I just need some advice!
I've never ever with held contact, that is not my motive here. But I think ex is acting in his own best interest and not our sons and his unborn baby's.